Awkward growth in love and pleasure
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Jupiter Quincunx Venus transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t jump into new relationships or start big romantic commitments- things might look better than they are.
- Try not to overspend, especially on luxury items, clothes, or things that make you feel good in the moment.
- Avoid making promises in love or friendships that you’re not sure you can keep.
- Don’t ignore red flags in dating or with people you meet; trust your gut if something feels off.
- Refrain from dramatic makeovers or big changes to your appearance- you might regret it later.
- Avoid indulging too much in sweets, comfort food, or anything that’s “too much of a good thing.”
- Don’t take on joint financial commitments or mix money and friends/love right now.
- Try not to ignore your own needs just to make someone else happy.
- Avoid comparing your love life or friendships to others; focus on what feels right to you.
Do During This Transit
- Try new approaches to relationships and see what feels right- don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone.
- Look at your spending habits and consider making small changes to your budget, especially for self-care or luxury items.
- Experiment with your personal style, whether that means shopping for clothes you’d never usually pick or changing up your beauty routine.
- Be open to meeting people who are totally different from your usual “type.”
- Reflect on what you really value in love and friendship- your priorities might be shifting now.
- Take a short trip or do something fun that mixes pleasure and learning, like a cooking or dance class.
- Let yourself explore creative projects without worrying if they make sense or fit a certain mold.
- Practice forgiveness and flexibility in close relationships- balance is a little tricky now, so cut everyone (including yourself) some slack.
- If conflicts come up, take a step back before reacting. Use this time to see things from a new perspective.
- Focus on gratitude and acknowledging abundance in your life, even if things feel a bit out of sync.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- Some old astrologers saw Jupiter quincunx Venus as a time when “pleasure begets displeasure,” meaning joys turn unexpectedly to annoyances, especially in matters of passion or indulgence.
- In medieval texts, this aspect was sometimes called “the misfitting gift” – you get something you want, but it doesn’t really fit into your life, or it comes with strings attached.
- Ancient authors wrote that during this transit, “sweetness turns cloying.” Too much of a good thing (in love, food, or leisure) could leave people strangely unsatisfied or even resentful.
- There’s a rare old idea that this aspect could create “reversed fortunes in love,” meaning people who help or please you now might ask for something in return later, in awkward or inconvenient ways.
- Some older sources warned that “unwise generosity” is common now. People may give or spend too much, finding out later it wasn’t as appreciated as they hoped, or that it causes imbalance.
- Traditional texts sometimes mentioned “discord in mirth,” suggesting that celebrations or happy times during this period may be tainted by misunderstandings, jealousy, or regret afterward.
Experiencing This Transit
When Jupiter forms a quincunx (150°) aspect to your natal Venus, things can get a bit weird in your personal world, but not in a dramatic way. It’s more like two parts of your life- your desire for fun, love, or comfort (Venus), and your urge to expand, grow, or experience something bigger (Jupiter)- aren’t really syncing up. You might feel like you’re craving more, but can’t quite put your finger on what would actually satisfy you.
Challenges during this transit
- Restlessness in Relationships: You might suddenly feel a little bored or dissatisfied with your current relationships- even if there’s nothing really wrong. Instead of being cozy, things could feel too safe or a bit “meh.”
- Awkward Social Moments: You could say the wrong thing at the wrong time, or try to make a generous gesture that ends up going over badly. Maybe you take someone out for a nice dinner, and they fuss about the food, or you buy a thoughtful gift and it’s not really what they wanted.
- Overdoing Indulgence: It’s easy to go overboard with food, spending, or pleasure during this transit- like shopping sprees or eating way too much dessert. But what seemed exciting in the moment might leave you feeling off balance or guilty afterward.
- Mixed Signals: If you’re dating or in a new relationship, it can be confusing. You might feel extra flirty, but the response you get is… not what you expected. Mixed signals are common with this weird energy.
- Feeling Unappreciated: You could be in the mood to do something nice for someone, but not get the thank you you hoped for, which leads to mild regret or frustration.
Opportunities during this transit
- Fresh Perspective on Pleasure: If you feel restless, it’s a sign to explore new sources of joy. Maybe try a new hobby, listen to music you’ve never heard, or experiment with a totally different style- anything that shakes up your usual routine.
- Learning Boundaries: Since giving too much or expecting too much can backfire now, it’s a good time to practice saying “no” or setting healthy boundaries, especially in social or romantic situations.
- Personal Growth in Love: Sometimes this aspect points out the gaps between what you want and what you need in relationships. If you notice this friction, it’s a chance to get clear about what really matters to you- what do you truly value in others, and what do you need to feel fulfilled?
- Creative Breakthroughs: The misfit energy of this transit can inspire you to mix up your creative process. Trying something out-of-the-box could lead to art, music, or writing that surprises even you.
- Letting Go of Outdated Desires: If you keep chasing after pleasures or comforts that used to make you happy but don’t really do it anymore, this is a good time to let those old habits go and make room for something better.
- Graciousness and Humor: Since misunderstandings or little slips are likely now, being able to laugh at yourself, or show extra grace when things don’t go right, will help you thrive during this funny, lopsided energy. You might even find real joy in not taking things too seriously.
How the Sign of Transiting Jupiter Modifies This Transit Quincunx to Natal Venus
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Jupiter.
- Transiting Jupiter in Aries: You might feel restless and impulsive in love or with money. The urge to try something totally new could clash with old routines, making it hard to settle down.
- Transiting Jupiter in Taurus: There’s a craving for comfort and pleasure, but you could go overboard with indulgence. Changes in relationships might test your patience if things feel too slow.
- Transiting Jupiter in Gemini: You may get easily distracted, wanting to flirt or experiment. Communication hiccups can pop up in relationships, or you might have too many options to choose from.
- Transiting Jupiter in Cancer: Emotional ups and downs could make you crave closeness, but boundaries get blurry. Family or home changes might complicate your love life or finances.
- Transiting Jupiter in Leo: There’s a big need for attention and fun, but drama might follow if you feel underappreciated. Showy spending or gestures could miss the mark.
- Transiting Jupiter in Virgo: You might want to “fix” relationship problems, but your efforts could feel nitpicky or critical. Overthinking things can get in the way of enjoying the moment.
- Transiting Jupiter in Libra: The urge for partnership is strong, but you may struggle with balance. Compromises don’t come easy, and too much people-pleasing can leave you unsatisfied.
- Transiting Jupiter in Scorpio: Intensity in love ramps up, and you might crave deeper bonds- but jealousy or trust issues can stir up friction. Managing desires is key during this time.
- Transiting Jupiter in Sagittarius: Adventure calls, and boredom becomes a problem in the usual routines. You might overspend or take risks, searching for something “bigger” in relationships or pleasure.
- Transiting Jupiter in Capricorn: You feel pushed to get serious, but ambitions in love or money could feel at odds with your heart. It’s hard to juggle responsibilities with what you enjoy.
- Transiting Jupiter in Aquarius: You want more freedom and space, or you’re drawn to unconventional relationships. It’s tough to fit into “normal” molds, and you might resist compromise.
- Transiting Jupiter in Pisces: Romance and fantasy are strong, but reality checks may be hard to face. You might idealize people or situations only to feel let down if things don’t match your dreams.