Tough Love Lessons
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Saturn Semisquare Venus transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t start a new romantic relationship- it might feel exciting at first, but things could get complicated or heavy fast.
- Avoid making big commitments in your current relationship, like moving in together or getting engaged. Emotions might be tougher to handle now.
- Don’t lend or borrow money with friends or your partner. Financial dealings could bring stress or misunderstandings.
- Avoid shopping sprees or making expensive purchases just to make yourself feel better. Regret can set in quick with Saturn in the mix.
- Try not to overthink small issues with loved ones. This transit can make problems seem bigger than they actually are.
- Don’t ignore your own needs just to keep the peace in a relationship. It’s easy to feel unloved or unappreciated under this energy.
- Avoid holding grudges or bottling up hurt feelings. Honest conversations are tough now, but stuffing things down just makes it worse.
- Refrain from comparing your love life to others’. Social media, in particular, can make things feel extra harsh or lonely.
- Don’t quit on creative projects or hobbies just because you’re feeling a bit uninspired or critical of your own talents.
- Avoid being too hard on yourself about your appearance or self-worth. Saturn loves to point out flaws, but don’t buy into it!
Do During This Transit
- Take a close look at your relationships and see where you might need healthier boundaries.
- Work on self-love and self-worth, even if it feels a bit awkward at first.
- Handle money carefully- it’s a good time to get serious about budgeting and rethinking your spending habits.
- Let yourself feel any tough emotions that come up, but don’t be too hard on yourself.
- Reflect on what you truly value in love, friendship, and even your daily routines.
- Tidy up or reorganize your space so it feels more peaceful- Venus loves beauty and comfort, and Saturn likes order.
- Set practical goals for your personal happiness and relationships (maybe start small, like planning regular self-care or quality time with loved ones).
- Be honest with yourself and others, especially if something’s been swept under the rug in your relationships.
- Practice patience- some delays or tensions come up now, but they show you what’s really important.
- Try creative projects that take a bit more discipline, like finally finishing an art piece or redecorating a room.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- In some old astrologers’ writings, a harsh aspect like the semisquare from Saturn to Venus was thought to cause a “restlessness in the heart,” making people yearn for something just out of reach in relationships and pleasures.
- Certain Renaissance texts call this transit “the craftsman’s trial,” suggesting it brings a testing period for people who work with their hands or create beauty- like artists or musicians- where inspiration dries up, forcing them to refine their skills through hard work.
- Ancient sources sometimes said that when Saturn challenges Venus, “the pantry thins,” hinting at periods where people might experience a drop in material or sensual comforts- either literally (money issues) or more subtly (lack of affection).
- Some old interpretations suggest this transit “chills the wedding bed,” meaning intimacy in romantic partnerships might cool off, or there may be obligations that get in the way of passion and connection.
- An obscure French author once wrote that a Saturn-Venus aspect like this could cause someone to “fear the velvet,” meaning a mistrust of anything that seems too easy or pleasing, blocking simple joys out of worry or guilt.
Experiencing This Transit
When Saturn forms a semisquare to your natal Venus, it brings subtle but noticeable tension to matters of love, pleasure, money, and self-worth. Saturn’s energy is strict, disciplined, and sometimes heavy, while Venus is soft and open, so they don’t vibe together that easily. The semisquare isn’t as tough as a full-on square, but it still adds enough stress that you can’t just cruise through without feeling it. Here’s what this transit might look and feel like for you:
Challenges during this transit
- Relationship friction: You might find it harder than usual to get close to people, or maybe you feel awkward or distant around romantic partners. There could be a coldness or misunderstandings that make things feel heavier than normal. For example, maybe date nights turn into discussions about bills or future responsibilities instead of fun and connection.
- Feeling unappreciated or unloved: Venus is about affection and value, and Saturn can make you question if you’re truly valued or desirable. You may end up withdrawing or building emotional walls without even realizing it.
- Money restraints: This transit is known for tightening the purse strings. You might feel like you’re constantly budgeting, worrying about expenses, or just not able to treat yourself or others like you’d want to.
- Difficulty in expressing yourself artistically: If you’re into art, music, or anything creative, you could run into creative blocks, or just not feel inspired by what you’re making. Everything might seem a little… blah.
- Lack of self-care: You could be more critical of yourself, or get so caught up in work or responsibilities that you skip out on the things that bring you joy or comfort.
Opportunities during this transit
- Building solid relationships: Even if things feel tough, you have a chance to make your relationships stronger and more mature. Now’s the time to talk about the tough stuff, set boundaries, or simply be honest about what you need.
- Long-term financial planning: You’re more likely to face your financial reality now. This transit gives you a push to build better habits with money- like starting a savings plan, budgeting, or cutting back on unnecessary spending.
- Improving creative discipline: If you’re a creative type, this is a chance to get real about your practice. Maybe you practice guitar scales instead of writing songs, or you sketch studies instead of tackling a giant painting. The less glamorous work pays off later!
- Learning self-worth through self-respect: Instead of relying on outside praise or affection, you can use this transit to check in with yourself about what you really value. Maybe you realize it’s okay to ask for what you need, or to say no to things that don’t feel right.
- Finding joy in simplicity: Since Saturn trims away the excess, you might find pleasure in the little things- a homemade meal, a walk in the park, or deep talks with someone you trust. Sometimes less is more.
How the Sign of Transiting Saturn Modifies This Transit Semisquare to Natal Venus
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Saturn.
- Transiting Saturn in Aries: The tension can show up as impatience in love or money stuff. You might feel like you have to take action- even if you’re not sure what to do. Relationships could feel more competitive or like you need more independence.
- Transiting Saturn in Taurus: The focus shifts to stability and security. Money stress can feel heavier, and issues around self-worth or comfort in relationships could come up. You’re pushed to really define what’s valuable to you.
- Transiting Saturn in Gemini: Communication becomes a big deal. Misunderstandings or cold conversations might pop up. You may find it harder to say how you feel, or you might overthink love and finances.
- Transiting Saturn in Cancer: Emotional walls can go up. You might feel extra sensitive to criticism or shut out by people you care about. Family or home issues could add stress to your relationships.
- Transiting Saturn in Leo: Pride or ego could get in the way of connection. You might feel unappreciated or worry you’re not getting enough love or admiration. It’s easy to feel stuck when trying to express yourself creatively, too.
- Transiting Saturn in Virgo: Love or money feels more like work than play. You might get picky about partners or financial choices, or stress over the little things. It’s a time to notice where routines and attention to detail really matter.
- Transiting Saturn in Libra: Partnerships and fairness are on your mind. If a relationship feels off balance, you’ll notice. This can bring up stress around commitment, equality, or whether things feel “good enough.”
- Transiting Saturn in Scorpio: Deep trust issues or fears around intimacy might get stirred up. Stuff that’s been buried in relationships or with money can come up, and it might feel intense or a bit heavy.
- Transiting Saturn in Sagittarius: If you and others don’t share the same values or beliefs, that could rub you the wrong way. There might be a reality check about freedom in relationships or honest talk about money plans.
- Transiting Saturn in Capricorn: Practical matters take the spotlight. There’s pressure to be responsible, serious, or set long-term goals in love and finances. You might feel like you have to put duty over fun for a while.
- Transiting Saturn in Aquarius: You may feel a need for more space or independence in relationships. Friendships can also get tested. Money issues might be tied to group projects or unconventional ideas.
- Transiting Saturn in Pisces: Boundaries in love (and maybe money) can get confusing. It’s easy to feel unappreciated or taken for granted, or you might want to escape tough situations rather than face them head-on.