Tense passion or love-hate vibes
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Mars sesquisquare Venus transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t jump into romantic drama or pick fights in your relationships- tempers flare easily right now.
- Avoid making impulsive decisions about love or dating, like rushing into new relationships or sudden breakups.
- Try not to overspend on luxury items, beauty products, or impulse buys- temptation is strong, but regret can follow.
- Skip trying to force passion or chemistry in your relationship if things feel off; let things breathe instead.
- Don’t ignore boundaries- yours or someone else’s. Respect personal space in love and friendships.
- Steer clear of jealousy and possessiveness, even if you’re feeling insecure or extra competitive.
- Don’t make promises you can’t keep, especially in matters of love or money- it’s easy to overpromise now.
- Avoid heated confrontation about relationship problems. Emotions can get exaggerated, making things worse.
- Try not to use sex or flirtation to solve arguments; it might just complicate things more right now.
- Don’t neglect your self-care just to please someone else or to try and “win” them over- put yourself first.
Do During This Transit
- Take a bold step in romance, like asking someone out or being honest about your feelings.
- Start a new creative project, even if it feels a little risky or out of your comfort zone.
- Channel extra passion into art, music, or anything hands-on that you love doing.
- Work out any relationship tensions with open, direct (but kind) conversations.
- Give yourself a mini-makeover or try a new style- do something to feel more confident and bold.
- Make a move in your love life, but don’t rush things- balance action with patience.
- Try a new workout or join a physical activity that makes you feel attractive or energized.
- Focus on self-love and self-worth, standing up for what you need in relationships.
- Channel any frustration into passion projects instead of arguments or drama.
- Set healthy boundaries- don’t be afraid to say “no” if something doesn’t feel right.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- Some old astrology texts say Mars in this tricky sesquisquare to Venus can stir up “dangerous amusements” – meaning temptation and risky pleasures that come suddenly and for no good reason.
- There are mentions in Renaissance astrology of a “quicksilver warming” of affections, which they claim causes misplaced loyalty and fleeting passions, especially in forbidden or secret affairs.
- Middle Ages astrologers sometimes called this aspect the “discordant chord,” warning of weird disagreements in relationships that can’t be traced to any clear cause. Arguments might just… happen out of nowhere.
- Some Persian manuscripts mention how this tension between Venus and Mars can bring “charms that draw danger,” suggesting you might attract admirers who are trouble or just not what they seem.
- One obscure Italian astrologer even described this transit as “the duel of honey and blade”- so sweet things might come mixed up with a little sting or jealousy.
- A very old French source says this is a time when “beauty is upset by impatience” – meaning how you look or feel about your body might get thrown off by mood swings and restlessness.
Experiencing This Transit
When Mars forms a sesquisquare (that’s 135° – a “square and a half,” so it’s got more friction than a sextile, less than an opposition) to your natal Venus, it’s like someone’s hit the shuffle button on your love life, your taste, your sense of what’s fun – and sometimes, your wallet. You might feel a tension between what you want in relationships and what actually happens, or between enjoying yourself and dealing with random frustrations. The energy is restless, passionate, but a little off-balance and unpredictable.
Challenges during this transit
- Mixed Signals in Love: You may feel pulled between wanting closeness and accidentally pushing people away. Maybe you crave romance, but everything comes out sounding a bit too blunt or impatient.
- Arguments Out of Nowhere: The little stuff bugs you, and minor disagreements with friends, partners, or even strangers can blow up faster than you expect. It’s easy to say “the wrong thing” or get jealous for no reason.
- Reckless Spending: Mars-Venus tension sometimes hits your wallet. You might be tempted to spend a little too much on looking good or “treating yourself” – later regretting it.
- Attracting Drama: You could find yourself drawn to people or situations that seem exciting but are actually a hot mess. Sometimes people just want to fight or flirt but don’t know what they want.
- Restlessness: You might feel bored and fidgety, easily annoyed by routines that usually feel comforting. This could spill over into your relationships or social life as well.
Opportunities during this transit
- Spicing Things Up: The weird tension of this aspect can wake things up where love or fun has gone stale. If things have been too routine, this is a moment to try something different or shake up your dating approach.
- Creative Fire: Artistic projects, decorating attempts, or even just picking out outfits – your sense of style might get bolder, sexier, and more experimental. Let your weird ideas out!
- Motivation for Self-Improvement: If you’re getting annoyed by how things look or feel, use that irritation to start a new workout, try a hobby, or just do something about that thing that’s been bugging you.
- Learning about Boundaries: All those little arguments or off-center moments are a chance to figure out what you truly like, want, or need from people – so you can be clearer in the future.
- Passion with a Twist: Sometimes, friction creates heat. This can spark up your sex life, or just get you thinking about what really excites you – romantically, creatively, even in friendship.
How the Sign of Transiting Mars Modifies This Transit Sesquisquare to Natal Venus
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Mars.
- Transiting Mars in Aries: You’re extra impulsive in love or money. Sparks fly- quick tempers, quick attractions, and lots of restless energy.
- Transiting Mars in Taurus: Clashes are slow to build but stubborn. It’s like nobody wants to compromise. Possessiveness or jealousy can come up.
- Transiting Mars in Gemini: Arguments get wordy. Flirty text fights, mixed messages, or nitpicking can test relationships or make spending impulsive.
- Transiting Mars in Cancer: Emotions run high. You might act or react out of hurt feelings, or get defensive about what (or who) you care about.
- Transiting Mars in Leo: Drama levels rise. Egos clash and pride gets in the way. You want attention and might splurge to impress.
- Transiting Mars in Virgo: You notice every relationship flaw. Arguments can start over small things, or you feel frustrated about not being appreciated.
- Transiting Mars in Libra: You try to smooth things over but still end up fighting. Conflict might revolve around fairness or someone not pulling their weight.
- Transiting Mars in Scorpio: Intense feelings boil over. Power struggles or secret resentments can come out. Passion (or obsession) cranks way up.
- Transiting Mars in Sagittarius: Restless energy makes you want freedom. Petty arguments about beliefs, travel, or honesty could flare up in your closest ties.
- Transiting Mars in Capricorn: You clash over responsibilities or priorities. Ambition, control, or who’s “the boss” can bring tension in love or money matters.
- Transiting Mars in Aquarius: You rebel against rules or routines in relationships. Sudden changes, detachment, or wanting “space” could pop up.
- Transiting Mars in Pisces: Feelings get confusing. Miscommunications or passive-aggressive vibes can cause problems, or you might feel let down by others.