“I Love Helping”
The first secret to know about a Virgo in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Virgo person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Virgo will be a “Virgo in love.” (Find out your Venus sign with our Venus Sign Calculator.)
Venus in Virgo is a modest, shy lover. They express love by being helpful, serving you, and criticizing you. Yes, when you find them constantly nagging and correcting you, it means they care. They are simply holding you to the same high standard that they hold themselves to – that of perfection. While they are humble, they are also conscientious. They feel it absolutely necessary to call out your mistakes when they catch them. This will happen often since they have an extremely high attention for detail. Venus in Virgo is endowed with exceptional analytical skills. So if they correct you, they are usually right. But remember, that is how they show that they love you. If they stop criticizing, they have stopped caring.
Self-improvement is the goal for Venus in Virgo. They strive to be perfect in every area of their life, but particularly in the areas of health, diet, and work ethics. When one loves you, they add you to their self-improvement checklist. But Virgo is one of the most helpful signs in the zodiac. Your Virgo lover will not simply tell you that you need to do more cardio exercise; they will wake up at 5am to jog with you every morning. They will not just tell you that your home is a mess; they will clean it for you. They will not just tell you that you need to eat healthier; they will show up at your home with grocery bags full of veggies. They will change their own diet if it means helping you. And you couldn’t stop them. For a Virgo, serving others actually provides them emotional satisfaction. They do it because it makes them feel good.
In bed with a Virgo lover, prepare to be analyzed and pleased from head to toe. They will take their time exploring every nook and cranny on your body until they find your “spot.” This is a thorough lover. The Venus in Virgo male is turned on by clean, hygienic, nerdy women. Not the smart peppy type of nerdy like Venus in Gemini likes, but rather a quiet nerdy manner and appearance. He prefers modest, humble, nice girls, but he can also get turned on by a bad girl in a “school girl” outfit with glasses. The Venus in Virgo lady always looks smart, and as near perfect as one can be.
Some celebrities with Venus in Virgo include Catherine Zeta-Jones, Julia Roberts, Robert de Niro, and Eminem ( Marshall Mathers ).
Virgo lovers can be clingy, but they are also timid and reserved. Their reserved nature comes from the fact that they are inwardly criticizing themselves all the time. They alternate between holding back, and stepping in to help you. At worst, their over-helpfulness, petty criticisms, or natural reserved nature can interfere with emotional give-and-take and the expression of passion. You’ll know they love you because they help you do stuff, but they may not be able to give emotionally or passionately (Virgo is an earth sign, after all). Most problems with a Virgo lover can be worked out if you talk with them since they are always up for self-improvement.
Venus in Virgo can suffer through a long, lonely time without a partner simply because they find too many flaws with each prospect. Some Virgos are seriously waiting for a perfect person. On the other extreme, they are always at risk of being taken advantage of because they never stop serving and helping others. They can end up in relationships with drug addicts, alcoholics, or people in trouble with the law because the Virgo lover tries to “save them.”
Virgo is a mutable sign, and it’s difficult to pin them down. They don’t begin relationships with just anybody. If a Venus in Virgo loves you, either you have perfect qualities that they admire, or you are so screwed up that it has become their mission to fix you.
How to Love Venus in Virgo
To make your Virgo lover feel loved, make them feel useful to you. They need to feel useful to feel good about themselves. Let them help you with everything, whether it is homework, housework, running errands, etc. Appreciate their self-improvement plan for your life. But more than appreciation, they want to see tangible results that their advice is working on you. They will feel loved if you’re all excited about their advice. Go vegetarian, go vegan, cut out caffeine, sign up for a fitness class, do whatever they advise you to do.
See if you can ease the stress they cause themselves by their self-criticisms. Let your Virgo lover know that they are already as close to perfect as a human can be. They will disagree with you, but they will appreciate your concern.
Accept their criticism they way you would accept it from a grandparent, knowing that they love you and mean it for your own good. Don’t be harsh with them; they will back down and you may lose them. Be kind and try to be as perfect as possible. They are analyzing your every move, even when you least expect it. They notice if you return that DVD rental a day late, or add milk to your coffee after you’ve gone vegan. Just let them know you’re trying your best to be perfect.
Your Virgo lover will only be comfortable with you if you are logical, practical, and super clean. Make your decisions using logic. For fun, play analytical puzzle games. They love exercising their minds by analyzing things. They also love taking showers. Try taking a shower together on a date. Don’t eat meals in your car, do carry around sanitizer, keep your kitchen spotless, always wear a bib, that kind of thing.
Whatever you do, don’t take advantage of these helpful, serving souls. You will be rewarded with a near-perfect lover who is also a mentor and a best friend for life.
Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.