“I Love My Family”
The first secret to know about a Cancer in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Cancer person. Only someone with the planet Venus in the sign of Cancer will be a “Cancer in love.” (Find out your Venus sign with our Venus Sign Calculator.)
Venus in Cancer is the big sentimental baby of the zodiac. Cancer is the first water sign, and Venus in Cancer is a very emotional lover. They express affection sensitively, comfortingly, protectively, and tenaciously. They care about your feelings and they will not give up showing it. Venus in Cancer will embrace you tightly as they express their love with a tear in their eye. When a male Cancer lover tells you he’s in love with you, he means that he wants you to have his baby. The female Cancer lover is expecting you to get her pregnant; there’s nothing she wants more.
The first priority for Venus in Cancer is to have a family. They need to nurture and be nurtured in order to be comfortable with life. If they cannot have their own biological family, they may join some type of close-knit group in order to feel part of a family, or they adopt children or have many pets. Venus in Cancer becomes dependent on its family, and loyal to it. President Barack Obama and Angelina Jolie both have Venus in Cancer.
Cancer in love alternates between mothering you and wanting you to mother them. When they first fall in love with you, they will take you to meet their mother. They want you and “Mother” to be the best of friends. They will court with tons of sweet kisses and hugs; Venus in Cancer absolutely loves hugs. They’ll be clingy, always with their arms wrapped around you, or their hand clasped around yours. You’ll find it difficult to get rid of them; not that you’d want to. Your Cancer lover cannot bear to see you sad or hurt. Cancer lovers are a bit psychic and receptive; they can tell when you feel sad. They will become overly-protective of you, hardening right up and lashing out at anyone who threatens you. And at the same time, they will sincerely cry with you when you get your feelings hurt. Venus in Cancer reflects your moods.
But it will take some time before they let you get that close to them. Cancer lovers are extremely self-protective. Even if they like you, they will wait until they feel safe and sure of your affection. If they don’t get what they want, they become moody. Their emotions swing back and forth just like the Moon’s phases (the Moon rules the sign of Cancer). They may be happy that you cooked a lovely meal for them, and then give you the silent treatment because you have to go to work. Cancer lovers are masters of the silent treatment. They can also be stingy and mean. Sometimes their moodiness and overly self-protective feelings can become so extreme as to make it impossible to have a relationship with them. This eventually brings them sadness. They are not practical when it comes to love.
The Venus in Cancer male is attracted to naturally large breasts, never fake ones. He prefers the soft, natural, full, motherly look. A full-figured, even slightly over-weight, woman attracts him more than a thin, athletic woman. As with Taurus, Cancer is turned on by fertility. Venus in Cancer may actually be turned on by pregnant women. Brains don’t really matter to this guy; in fact, he may be intimidated by a woman with brains.
How to Love Venus in Cancer
To make Venus in Cancer feel loved, you must become a part of their family. If you become best friends with his mother, he will love you. “Mother” him, be protective of him, cook for him, and he will love you. Venus in Cancer absolutely loves a home-cooked meal, preferably not spicy because they probably also have a sensitive stomach. Wear an apron when you cook, whether you’re male or female. They love to stay home. If you’re constantly dragging them out of the house for exciting dates, they will think you don’t love them. Sit with them on the couch with a tub of ice cream watching the latest romance movie, and they’ll feel loved. Never invite extra people over without consulting them (unless it’s Mother). They prefer to be alone with you. They are shy in large groups; they always prefer small, close-knit groups.
If you’re a woman, dress pretty, not sexy. Dress like a grandmother, with soft, flowery dresses to attract a Cancer man. He likes to see a little cleavage but make sure it’s a dress Mother will approve of. Always appear pretty, natural, and ladylike. Venus in Cancer loves to feel needed. Be dependent on them. Don’t be too independent whether you’re male or female. They want to take you under their wing. But you should have some emergency money hidden, because although they have the desire to take care of you, they are not a practical lover and may not always have the means to take care of you.
Be sincere with your feelings and very sensitive to their feelings. If they suspect that your feelings are insincere (remember, they’re a bit psychic) they will retreat away from you. In other words, Venus in Cancer can tell if you really love them. If you really love them, you’ll be rewarded with a caring, sensitive, nurturing, and gentle lover who is not likely to stray.
If all else fails, have their baby. Venus in Cancer is probably the only zodiac sign who cannot resist the parent of their child.
Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.