Cancer in Love

Cancer zodiac in love

By on June 26, 2011     21 Comments

“I Love My Family”

The first secret to know about a Cancer in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Cancer person. Only someone with the planet Venus in the sign of Cancer will be a “Cancer in love.”

Venus in Cancer is the big sentimental baby of the zodiac. Cancer is the first water sign, and Venus in Cancer is a very emotional lover. They express affection sensitively, comfortingly, protectively, and tenaciously. They care about your feelings and they will not give up showing it. Venus in Cancer will embrace you tightly as they express their love with a tear in their eye. When a male Cancer lover tells you he’s in love with you, he means that he wants you to have his baby. The female Cancer lover is expecting you to get her pregnant; there’s nothing she wants more.

The first priority for Venus in Cancer is to have a family. They need to nurture and be nurtured in order to be comfortable with life. If they cannot have their own biological family, they may join some type of close-knit group in order to feel part of a family, or they adopt children or have many pets. Venus in Cancer becomes dependent on its family, and loyal to it. President Barack Obama and Angelina Jolie both have Venus in Cancer.

Cancer in love alternates between mothering you and wanting you to mother them. When they first fall in love with you, they will take you to meet their mother. They want you and “Mother” to be the best of friends. They will court with tons of sweet kisses and hugs; Venus in Cancer absolutely loves hugs. They’ll be clingy, always with their arms wrapped around you, or their hand clasped around yours. You’ll find it difficult to get rid of them; not that you’d want to. Your Cancer lover cannot bear to see you sad or hurt. Cancer lovers are a bit psychic and receptive; they can tell when you feel sad. They will become overly-protective of you, hardening right up and lashing out at anyone who threatens you. And at the same time, they will sincerely cry with you when you get your feelings hurt. Venus in Cancer reflects your moods.

But it will take some time before they let you get that close to them. Cancer lovers are extremely self-protective. Even if they like you, they will wait until they feel safe and sure of your affection. If they don’t get what they want, they become moody. Their emotions swing back and forth just like the Moon’s phases (the Moon rules the sign of Cancer). They may be happy that you cooked a lovely meal for them, and then give you the silent treatment because you have to go to work. Cancer lovers are masters of the silent treatment. They can also be stingy and mean. Sometimes their moodiness and overly self-protective feelings can become so extreme as to make it impossible to have a relationship with them. This eventually brings them sadness. They are not practical when it comes to love.

The Venus in Cancer male is attracted to naturally large breasts, never fake ones. He prefers the soft, natural, full, motherly look. A full-figured, even slightly over-weight, woman attracts him more than a thin, athletic woman. As with Taurus, Cancer is turned on by fertility. Venus in Cancer may actually be turned on by pregnant women. Brains don’t really matter to this guy; in fact, he may be intimidated by a woman with brains.

How to Love Venus in Cancer

To make Venus in Cancer feel loved, you must become a part of their family. If you become best friends with his mother, he will love you. “Mother” him, be protective of him, cook for him, and he will love you. Venus in Cancer absolutely loves a home-cooked meal, preferably not spicy because they probably also have a sensitive stomach. Wear an apron when you cook, whether you’re male or female. They love to stay home. If you’re constantly dragging them out of the house for exciting dates, they will think you don’t love them. Sit with them on the couch with a tub of ice cream watching the latest romance movie, and they’ll feel loved. Never invite extra people over without consulting them (unless it’s Mother). They prefer to be alone with you. They are shy in large groups; they always prefer small, close-knit groups.

If you’re a woman, dress pretty, not sexy. Dress like a grandmother, with soft, flowery dresses to attract a Cancer man. He likes to see a little cleavage but make sure it’s a dress Mother will approve of. Always appear pretty, natural, and ladylike. Venus in Cancer loves to feel needed. Be dependent on them. Don’t be too independent whether you’re male or female. They want to take you under their wing. But you should have some emergency money hidden, because although they have the desire to take care of you, they are not a practical lover and may not always have the means to take care of you.

Be sincere with your feelings and very sensitive to their feelings. If they suspect that your feelings are insincere (remember, they’re a bit psychic) they will retreat away from you. In other words, Venus in Cancer can tell if you really love them. If you really love them, you’ll be rewarded with a caring, sensitive, nurturing, and gentle lover who is not likely to stray.

If all else fails, have their baby. Venus in Cancer is probably the only zodiac sign who cannot resist the parent of their child.



Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.

Read more about Venus in Cancer. Read about the Water Sign Love Language since Cancer is a water sign.

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21 comments on “Cancer in Love

  1. This sounds EXACTLY like my boyfriend. His Venus is in Cancer, and mine is in Scorpio. We get along, wondrously. <3

  2. Wow! The guy I’m dating is just like this. He always knows how I’m feeling and sometimes it feels like he’s reading my mind. I was kind of afraid to be too affectionate and nurturing (don’t know why) and I’m looking forward to having children, but most men get scared away when I mention having children. Good to know that this actually turns them on!

  3. thaiwockeez on said:

    I am a venus in cancer and i agree this is so true, only part not true is the big breast part..

    • Elaine Richards on said:

      This certainly is true every bit of it represent my guy I am Scorpio and we get along so well he adopted my 11 year old daughter he wanted us to have a child but I am too old for that now. I am 50 he is 56

      • sadeep on said:

        my venus is cancer.every word is true other than But you should have some emergency money hidden, because although they have the desire to take care of you, they are not a practical lover

  4. The Brains part! – does matter! – and No! – i am not! – turned on by pregnant women! – and no! – i do not prefer big breast!

    “And last! – No – i do not! – want every female – whom –
    i say – Love you to! – Too have my baby”…….W.T.F.

  5. BrittanyS on said:

    I am a Leo with venus in cancer.
    This is shockingly about 97% accurate for me. I do usually think about having children with a guy I am in love with. But then I usually try to put those thoughts in the back of my mind because I know it’d be a bit weird >.<

  6. I am a Virgo Sun and Scorpio Venus male. I believe that a Cancer Venus is the best match for a Venus in Scorpio, just like Harley stated above, they are made for eachother.

    I would like to ask Astrology Library if there is some kind of chart or calculator to find out the matching compatibility between Venus signs, just like Sun signs.
    The Venus is even more important in a relationship than the Sun sign, I would love to see how Venuses match each other.

  7. All I have to say is Cancer Venus people are very very VERY sensitive. You’d have to handle them gently and slowly because if you make the mistake of being too assertive with them they will crumble, literally.

    My dad has this aspect and he is so touchy about almost anything. If someone says “hey, you look shorter today” – he’ll automatically obsess over that comment and assume it was an insult. No amount of reassurance helps because then he thinks your covering up how you really feel about him, even if you truly like him. My ex girlfriend has Venus in Cancer also and I don’t want to “blame” this aspect on our breakup but I’ll just say she was a bit paranoid and too clingy for my liking. I’m a confident guy and don’t find over bearing people attractive in the least. Its difficult explaining to Cancer Venus people that the dramatic episodes of affection, like pouting when they don’t get their way or being paranoid is irrational. they think that’s the way love should be when it isn’t. that’s been my experience anyway.

  8. I am a sun in cancer Venus and mercury in cancer and surprisingly I never agree to any of this. Lol I hate dependent people and the relationship I have with my mom is rather consentious. I like to feel smart and be with someone I can argue with for hours. I cant stand too much smothering. My ex was a cancer though. I have a Venus/mars in aqua courting me and he’s definitely emotional, it’s unnerving. This degintely doesn’t apply to me and I fly away from deep intimate commitments too. I have moon in Aries but with the abundance of cancer in my chart of has nothing to do with my general emotional independence. Astrology is a bit extreme

    • since your Moon is in Aries, it’s obvious that you’re not like others with a Venus in Cancer. Look at the whole picture. Not everyone with Cancer Venus reacts/feels the same way. Your Aries Moon has a crush easily, don’t prefer commitments, like challenges in relationship and kinda selfish. And i’m not sure from the above you say you have Venus in Aquarius? Aquarius is detached and don’t know how to show their affection. Takes everything into accounts, i get this is why u don’t feel like others with Cancer Venus.

  9. jyothis on said:

    Its so true, am a girl, but it perfectly describes me. I wish my bf understood this. 🙁

  10. Shashi on said:

    Male, Virgo Sun, Leo Moon, Libra Rising, Venus in Cancer. I like intelligent women. I’m not turned on by pregnant women and large breasts are a turn off. I’m 41 and don’t intend to ever get married or have kids.

  11. specialinfinity on said:

    I’m a virgo sun, aquarius moon, scorpio venus, cancer in mars, and aquarius rising girl. My boyfriend is Gemini sun, leo moon, cancer venus, Taurus mars, and virgo rising. We met years ago but he never approached me even though we saw each other more than enough times and then all of a sudden he contacts me on facebook saying he’s liked me for a long time(the feeling was mutual). We’ve been together for a few months now. With my venus in scorpio always needing to be manipulative and test my relationships our relationship has been a rollercoaster so far. He is very sensitive to the things that I say (I’ve found this with all leo moon guys! I’v dated my share! 7th house leo) and he is kind of clingy but his commitment and determination to make this relationship work is unbeatable. If I told you what we’ve been through and still are going through within these few months you wouldn’t believe we’re still together (No infidelity!!). He acts nothing like a Gemini until it comes to well…. I honestly don’t know since I don’t really know many Gemini besides him; but I’ve heard that they are flaky, really social, and like constant change. Maybe I haven’t been with him long enough to really know but he’s the complete opposite to that descriptive. I honestly hope that Scorpio venus and cancer venus are the most love compatible because with my venus sign I need relationship security. I guess I have to have his babies to keep him committed…lol.

  12. I have this placement. I have Virgo Sun, Libra rising, Sagittarius Moon, Cancer Venus and Libra Mars, I can relate to some degree, I am very protective of my feelings and I have struggles showing them freely, but that’s less due to astrology and more because of my difficult upbringing. I can say that I do have that negative, doubtful attitude sometimes when my boyfriend shows me his feelings like I cannot enjoy the love without questioning and analyzing it. But I’m trying really hard to change that and it’s working, because honestly I would never date a person like me, it can be draining
    But when I love, I really do everything for that person, I understand them and work hard to solve all their problems I really think I’m the most amazing friend anyone can have

    • OMG! I have the same exact placement in my astrological/birth chart! I always wondered if I’d come across any person that’d have the same signs in each position as me. I’m curious if we’re similar in our personalities. Lol i hope i don’t come off creepy, i’m just so surprised & intrigued. And everything you wrote in your comment above, is literally how i feel as well. That’s crazy!

  13. Damien Costanza on said:

    I have Venus in Cancer Sun in Taurus and Moon in Leo and Mars in Gemini. I do not mind large ones or small ones but for some reason I am abhorrent to fake ones. My friends decided to surprise me for a birthday by taking me to a strip club and made a wager with the girls: free dance if I could tell if she was fake or real. 9 times out of 10 I was right.

  14. bethuel on said:

    I am single male My sun Taurus,my venus cancer,moon virgo and mars gemini,I agree with all the astrological philosophy

    • Bethuel on said:

      Again I am male my 20 May 1983

      My Sun. -TAURUS
      MY Moon -Virgo
      My Venus-Cancer
      My Mars-Gemini

      I live and stay in South Africa my email (

  15. I am a
    Virgo sun
    Pieces moon
    Cancer Venus
    Cancer Mars

    The guy I fell for is a
    Libra sun
    Taurus moon
    Scorpio Venus
    Cancer Mars

  16. latasa killebrew on said:

    I am a 44 year old Gemini sun and cancer moon and Taurus Venus Aquarius Mars can u please explain to me what this mean?

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