Gemini in Love, Venus in Gemini

Gemini in Love

By on June 26, 2011     273 Comments

“I Love Variety, Communication, and Networking”

The first secret to know about a Gemini in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Gemini person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Gemini will be a “Gemini in love.” (Venus Sign Calculator)

The Gemini lover is the charmer of the zodiac. They express affection verbally and cleverly, but they only feel it skin-deep. You may be tempted to believe one loves you because of how excited they get when you’re together, but they get just as excited when chasing a butterfly or ordering dinner. It’s hard to tell if one is sincerely interested in you because Venus in Gemini is talkative and friendly with everybody and their mother. Venus in Gemini is a kid at heart, completely at peace with lying if it suits them. Like children, they are also endlessly curious. They’re into everything (it’s been said that they have “a finger in every pie.”). The Gemini lover’s taste is always changing, and they have a constant need for new stimuli. The only thing that you can be sure of about your Gemini lover is that they will not be faithful in a traditional relationship. Monogamy is absolutely impossible for someone with Venus in Gemini. (If you happen to have Venus in Gemini and are claiming that you have been faithful in a relationship, please comment at the bottom of this article; we’d like to perform some tests on you, because you, dear, must be some sort of mutant.)

To be fair, the Gemini need for variety is not so much sexual as it is a need for mental stimulation. The Gemini lover thrives on new information. Gemini is the networker of the zodiac. They have a need to disseminate information and connect people. This is why they’re driven to talk to everyone, at the lunch counter, around town, on the street, and in bed. And they are good at it, too. They are never at a loss for words, having enviable verbal skills. They carry themselves uprightly in public, fitting right in to any social crowd. At parties, they are the center of every talk circle. They go home from a party knowing what everyone was talking about, wearing, and eating. And they took it all in within the first half hour of the party. It’s as if Venus in Gemini has a receptor antenna on top of one’s head, receiving all sorts of information. They are totally aware of the people in their environment. Not the feelings of people (like the water signs are) but rather the rational thoughts and ideas of people. Robert Pattinson and Megan Fox both have Venus in Gemini, as did President JFK.

The Gemini lover never really means any harm; these are not fighters like Aries, nor manipulators like Scorpio. They can’t understand why you’re upset that they left you home alone with your boring movie while they went to look for something more fun to do. They are sincerely confused when you get angry at them for forgetting your birthday. They want you to understand that the reason they forgot your birthday is because the lady at the lunch counter had the most interesting story to tell, so your Gemini lover never made it your house that night. They are like easily distracted children. And you always forgive them because they have the most charming smiles and always say the right words. They like to remain friends with all of their past lovers, they cannot bear to end friendships. Friendships mean more to them than romances.

They may like to talk during sex (although Mars in Gemini is more indicative of that). Actually, they may prefer to talk about sex rather than doing it. Unless, of course, it’s a threesome. They cannot turn down a threesome. Males with this placement may seem feminine at times, but this does not mean they are necessarily homosexual. Gemini is considered an asexual sign. They can feel intimately close with both sexes. But intimately close for a Gemini is always only skin-deep. Gemini intimacy is a friendly companionship of a detached nature, like an acquaintance. This is the most emotionally-detached sign of the zodiac.

If they love you, they’ll show it lightly and playfully; no heavy emotional displays or extravagant gifts. Theirs is not a passionate-type of love. There will be no deep bonding; they simply don’t have the time. This charming lover will pile on the flattering comments and witty conversation. They’ll court you by taking you to a movie, and they’ll want to discuss the movie afterward over dinner or coffee. Or they may prefer to skip the movie and jump right into the discussion. They’ll talk to you for hours. They are great conversationalists; they have a fundamental need to communicate everything. In the past, Venus in Gemini courted with charming, folded-paper messages and phone calls. Today, they’ll shower you with witty text messages and emails. They’ll take you to all the happening events, and they don’t mind if you invite extra friends to come along. The more the merrier for Venus in Gemini. At dance clubs, they have just as much fun chatting with the bartender, the DJ, the bouncer, and the bathroom attendant as they do dancing. When they have your head spinning from all the social entanglements and 100-mile-per-hour conversations, then it may be safe to guess that they’re interested in you. Enjoy it while you can because it will not last very long. They’ll move on to another flavor tomorrow. If you want to hang on to them, you must provide constant stimulation.

On the positive side, the male Gemini lover is probably the only male in the zodiac that is not attracted to a person based on their looks. The Gemini lover is romantically attracted to brains. He wants a smart, intellectual lover who knows how to carry on a decent conversation. Sure, half-dressed, sexy women with cleavage may distract him for a moment, but he will not be romantically satisfied with such women. When it comes to physical appearance, Venus in Gemini is more attracted to a skinny, athletic-type than a rounded, full-figure woman. But regardless of looks, intelligence and quick wit is what turns them on.  Peppy, perky, outgoing and/or tomboyish types also turn them on.

How to Love Venus in Gemini

To make your Gemini lover feel loved, be a listener. They need immediate sounding boards for all of their thoughts. If you do this for them, they will feel very close to you. But you must also be talkative, or else they will get bored and leave you. Provide mental stimulation by asking them lots of questions about any subject.

The ultimate turn-on for Venus in Gemini is witty banter.

Be peppy and outgoing. They need variety, so be interesting. If you have a split personality, even better. To keep a Gemini happy you must allow them freedom to come and go as they please. If you try to cage them in at all, they will disappear. Never mention “commitment” or “marriage” because they will disappear. Don’t be boring, wanting to stay home all the time, because they will leave you. If you’re detecting a pattern here, pat yourself on the back. The Gemini lover is never a permanent lover; they will leave you. Gemini is the first air sign and, like air, comes and goes as it pleases. It’s not that they don’t love you. It’s simply that their need for variety and constant new stimuli inhibits their chances for a lasting relationship or for intimate bonding. If you provide enough freedom, mental stimulation, and forgiveness, your Gemini lover will always return to you after flying off for a bit. You must ask yourself if your nerves can handle that.

Note: Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will greatly alter your love style. Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life.

Read more about Venus in Gemini. Read about the Air Sign Love Language since Gemini is an air sign.

Find out your Venus sign with our Venus Sign Calculator.

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273 comments on “Gemini in Love”   Leave your comment below

  1. Nejhadesigns on said:

    I think my sun and moon being a cancer balances my Venus Gemini. I agree with most of it but I would never cheat but I don’t settle either which is why I stay single for a very long time (8yrs and counting). I’m fickle while dating especially when I’m out socializing. People always misinterpret my flirting as if I’m genuinely interested lol. I agree with most but this more or less sounds like someone who thought a Gemini lover was interested and got there feelings hurt

    • My sun is in Cancer and my moon is in Scorpio, which I truly think balances my not only Venus but Mars as well in Gemini. I don’t condone cheating and I’d rather leave a person well enough alone if they chose to cheat on me.

      • I don’t blame you… I’m older and aware a little bit of why I’m like this , I can be honest and upfront with women… I’m 44 and I would rather have true friendships more than sex. The only problem is the women who are my age are divorced and they feel if they don’t get a man fast then they feel “doomed” and fall into “depression”… that is 90% of the women I have met in the last 5 years.The other 10% feel secure with themselves and a lot more grounded.. Those women I am still friends with..

  2. Gemini Venus here. I have never cheated, but I have to admit that I haven’t been 100% faithful either. (I am now though!) My partner has Venus in Sagittarius, and our relationship is highly stimulating.

  3. Ascendant in gemini with Venus 1st house
    Sun. In cancer
    Moon. In sag
    Mercury. In Leo
    Venus. In gemini
    Mars. In Leo
    Saturn. In gemini
    Jupiter. In libra
    I couldn’t be faithful for even a million bucks..its funny in a way, I just have to laugh.. Its unreal the above sign placements.. The Sun in cancer is almost shredded a part by the fire and air….and it shows everyday..

  4. Michelle on said:

    I’m a Taurus sun ,Sagittarius Rising with Gemini Venus, I’ve been married to a Gemini male for 24yrs and neither of us have cheated. So Gemini Venus women do not cheat.

    • Everybody has the ability to cheat. You may not have cheated but lying to your husband for stupid reasons and flirting I’m sure have happened in 24 years more than the average person who doesn’t have Gemini in Venus. That Sagittarius Ascendant and Gemini Venus probably makes you feel polar opposite a lot…..Lol

  5. I am a Sun Gemini, Moon Gemini, and have Venus in Gemini. I have never cheated on another. I have been in mainly long term relationships. I do get bored but my Scorpio partner keeps life interesting.

    • hey me too, i am a male with the same placements as you, except i also have mercury in Gemini, and all four planets are in 4th house.

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