Gemini in Love, Venus in Gemini

Gemini in Love

Updated May 24, 2017
By Corrine Lane     302 Comments

“I Love Variety, Communication, and Networking”

The first secret to know about a Gemini in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Gemini person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Gemini will be a “Gemini in love.” (Venus Sign Calculator)

The Gemini lover is the charmer of the zodiac. They express affection verbally and cleverly, but they only feel it skin-deep. You may be tempted to believe one loves you because of how excited they get when you’re together, but they get just as excited when chasing a butterfly or ordering dinner. It’s hard to tell if one is sincerely interested in you because Venus in Gemini is talkative and friendly with everybody and their mother. Venus in Gemini is a kid at heart, completely at peace with lying if it suits them. Like children, they are also endlessly curious. They’re into everything (it’s been said that they have “a finger in every pie.”). The Gemini lover’s taste is always changing, and they have a constant need for new stimuli. The only thing that you can be sure of about your Gemini lover is that they will not be faithful in a traditional relationship. Monogamy is absolutely impossible for someone with Venus in Gemini. (If you happen to have Venus in Gemini and are claiming that you have been faithful in a relationship, please comment at the bottom of this article; we’d like to perform some tests on you, because you, dear, must be some sort of mutant.)

To be fair, the Gemini need for variety is not so much sexual as it is a need for mental stimulation. The Gemini lover thrives on new information. Gemini is the networker of the zodiac. They have a need to disseminate information and connect people. This is why they’re driven to talk to everyone, at the lunch counter, around town, on the street, and in bed. And they are good at it, too. They are never at a loss for words, having enviable verbal skills. They carry themselves uprightly in public, fitting right in to any social crowd. At parties, they are the center of every talk circle. They go home from a party knowing what everyone was talking about, wearing, and eating. And they took it all in within the first half hour of the party. It’s as if Venus in Gemini has a receptor antenna on top of one’s head, receiving all sorts of information. They are totally aware of the people in their environment. Not the feelings of people (like the water signs are) but rather the rational thoughts and ideas of people. Robert Pattinson and Megan Fox both have Venus in Gemini, as did President JFK.

The Gemini lover never really means any harm; these are not fighters like Aries, nor manipulators like Scorpio. They can’t understand why you’re upset that they left you home alone with your boring movie while they went to look for something more fun to do. They are sincerely confused when you get angry at them for forgetting your birthday. They want you to understand that the reason they forgot your birthday is because the lady at the lunch counter had the most interesting story to tell, so your Gemini lover never made it your house that night. They are like easily distracted children. And you always forgive them because they have the most charming smiles and always say the right words. They like to remain friends with all of their past lovers, they cannot bear to end friendships. Friendships mean more to them than romances.

They may like to talk during sex (although Mars in Gemini is more indicative of that). Actually, they may prefer to talk about sex rather than doing it. Unless, of course, it’s a threesome. They cannot turn down a threesome. Males with this placement may seem feminine at times, but this does not mean they are necessarily homosexual. Gemini is considered an asexual sign. They can feel intimately close with both sexes. But intimately close for a Gemini is always only skin-deep. Gemini intimacy is a friendly companionship of a detached nature, like an acquaintance. This is the most emotionally-detached sign of the zodiac.

If they love you, they’ll show it lightly and playfully; no heavy emotional displays or extravagant gifts. Theirs is not a passionate-type of love. There will be no deep bonding; they simply don’t have the time. This charming lover will pile on the flattering comments and witty conversation. They’ll court you by taking you to a movie, and they’ll want to discuss the movie afterward over dinner or coffee. Or they may prefer to skip the movie and jump right into the discussion. They’ll talk to you for hours. They are great conversationalists; they have a fundamental need to communicate everything. In the past, Venus in Gemini courted with charming, folded-paper messages and phone calls. Today, they’ll shower you with witty text messages and emails. They’ll take you to all the happening events, and they don’t mind if you invite extra friends to come along. The more the merrier for Venus in Gemini. At dance clubs, they have just as much fun chatting with the bartender, the DJ, the bouncer, and the bathroom attendant as they do dancing. When they have your head spinning from all the social entanglements and 100-mile-per-hour conversations, then it may be safe to guess that they’re interested in you. Enjoy it while you can because it will not last very long. They’ll move on to another flavor tomorrow. If you want to hang on to them, you must provide constant stimulation.

On the positive side, the male Gemini lover is probably the only male in the zodiac that is not attracted to a person based on their looks. The Gemini lover is romantically attracted to brains. He wants a smart, intellectual lover who knows how to carry on a decent conversation. Sure, half-dressed, sexy women with cleavage may distract him for a moment, but he will not be romantically satisfied with such women. When it comes to physical appearance, Venus in Gemini is more attracted to a skinny, athletic-type than a rounded, full-figure woman. But regardless of looks, intelligence and quick wit is what turns them on.  Peppy, perky, outgoing and/or tomboyish types also turn them on.

How to Love Venus in Gemini

To make your Gemini lover feel loved, be a listener. They need immediate sounding boards for all of their thoughts. If you do this for them, they will feel very close to you. But you must also be talkative, or else they will get bored and leave you. Provide mental stimulation by asking them lots of questions about any subject.

The ultimate turn-on for Venus in Gemini is witty banter.

Be peppy and outgoing. They need variety, so be interesting. If you have a split personality, even better. To keep a Gemini happy you must allow them freedom to come and go as they please. If you try to cage them in at all, they will disappear. Never mention “commitment” or “marriage” because they will disappear. Don’t be boring, wanting to stay home all the time, because they will leave you. If you’re detecting a pattern here, pat yourself on the back. The Gemini lover is never a permanent lover; they will leave you. Gemini is the first air sign and, like air, comes and goes as it pleases. It’s not that they don’t love you. It’s simply that their need for variety and constant new stimuli inhibits their chances for a lasting relationship or for intimate bonding. If you provide enough freedom, mental stimulation, and forgiveness, your Gemini lover will always return to you after flying off for a bit. You must ask yourself if your nerves can handle that.

Note: Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will greatly alter your love style. Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life.

Read more about Venus in Gemini. Read about the Air Sign Love Language since Gemini is an air sign.

Find out your Venus sign with our Venus Sign Calculator.

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  1. Nejhadesigns on said:

    I think my sun and moon being a cancer balances my Venus Gemini. I agree with most of it but I would never cheat but I don’t settle either which is why I stay single for a very long time (8yrs and counting). I’m fickle while dating especially when I’m out socializing. People always misinterpret my flirting as if I’m genuinely interested lol. I agree with most but this more or less sounds like someone who thought a Gemini lover was interested and got there feelings hurt

    • My sun is in Cancer and my moon is in Scorpio, which I truly think balances my not only Venus but Mars as well in Gemini. I don’t condone cheating and I’d rather leave a person well enough alone if they chose to cheat on me.

      • I don’t blame you… I’m older and aware a little bit of why I’m like this , I can be honest and upfront with women… I’m 44 and I would rather have true friendships more than sex. The only problem is the women who are my age are divorced and they feel if they don’t get a man fast then they feel “doomed” and fall into “depression”… that is 90% of the women I have met in the last 5 years.The other 10% feel secure with themselves and a lot more grounded.. Those women I am still friends with..

    • I am just going to agree with Nehjadesigns!
      You should rewrite this article, and ask your(higher?)self
      how YOU would feel if someone was saying all this rough stuff about YOU without knowing you personally.

  2. Gemini Venus here. I have never cheated, but I have to admit that I haven’t been 100% faithful either. (I am now though!) My partner has Venus in Sagittarius, and our relationship is highly stimulating.

  3. Ascendant in gemini with Venus 1st house
    Sun. In cancer
    Moon. In sag
    Mercury. In Leo
    Venus. In gemini
    Mars. In Leo
    Saturn. In gemini
    Jupiter. In libra
    I couldn’t be faithful for even a million bucks..its funny in a way, I just have to laugh.. Its unreal the above sign placements.. The Sun in cancer is almost shredded a part by the fire and air….and it shows everyday..

  4. Michelle on said:

    I’m a Taurus sun ,Sagittarius Rising with Gemini Venus, I’ve been married to a Gemini male for 24yrs and neither of us have cheated. So Gemini Venus women do not cheat.

    • Everybody has the ability to cheat. You may not have cheated but lying to your husband for stupid reasons and flirting I’m sure have happened in 24 years more than the average person who doesn’t have Gemini in Venus. That Sagittarius Ascendant and Gemini Venus probably makes you feel polar opposite a lot…..Lol

      • Statistically 50% women cheat and 50% men cheat. So though everyone my have the capacity half of the population will NEVER cheat.

  5. I am a Sun Gemini, Moon Gemini, and have Venus in Gemini. I have never cheated on another. I have been in mainly long term relationships. I do get bored but my Scorpio partner keeps life interesting.

    • hey me too, i am a male with the same placements as you, except i also have mercury in Gemini, and all four planets are in 4th house.

  6. Yvonne Roestorff on said:

    I’m a Leo Sun, Aries Rising, Cancer Moon and according to this site have my Venus in Gemini. That said, I must be a mutant then as I have never and I do mean NEVER cheated on any of my partners, nor will I ever. I’d rather end the relationship and move on with my life, than be selfish and hurt someone I care for.

    In fact, I was the one that was cheated on and it broke my heart to the extent that I have been completely celibate for the past 15 years. Although I’ve had many offers from a variety of men in my life I have not taken any of them up on their offers as I have not met the right person with whom I want to be intimate with. Sex for me is almost more of a spiritual thing than a physical thing, hence I’ve been alone for a very long time.

    This whole description is actually completely not me and most of the times anything astrological is normally right on the money with me and describes me and my quirks to the tee!

    • What is Your Mars And Mercury Sign And houses? Maybe in the 12Th House. That Can explain that Sex is For You More a Spiritual Thing. . Sorry my english is Not that Good. Greetings

  7. Ok you have my permission to start running the tests, as I have indeed been faithful…BUT
    ONLY to whom I actually deeply loved, as long as we were together that is.
    I can not say the same for he others however.

    Great article I just disagree with the faithfulness part as I prefer the comfort of one partner.

  8. kyykitteh on said:

    This is so not me :’DDD I have venus in gemini, I’m extremely shy and withdrawn in social situations, UNchatty, UNflirty and never cheated, never even wanted to – more like being loyal to a fault (still happily together with my first love even now in my thirties, fell head over heels in love with him when I was 17 years old <3). The only things here that I can recognize are that certain androgyny (my gender identity has always been kind of confusing/fluid/nonexistent) and attraction to all genders. And emotional detachment/constant rationalising of emotions when it comes to most people I encounter (I hardly ever had crushes other than fictional characters that I found interesting). Spouse (most precious and important person in my life), family and few close friends are the only exceptions.

    My sun sign is aries, ascendant is leo, moon in pisces, mercury in aries, mars in aquarius. (and my guy has sun in scorpio, moon in taurus, venus in sagittarius and mars and mercury in libra, rest I can't remember). Astrology can be fun and helpful at times but whatever your chart says – you can always learn and grow as a person, and just decide not to hurt others with your actions. Plus enough hardships and trauma can bring down even the most confident and courageous.

  9. My partner has Venus in Gemini but I’m the one (Venus in Leo, part of stellium with Mercury conjunct the MC) who exhibits ALL the Venus in Gemini characteristics, except the craving for threesomes – that, my partner jokingly does from time to time just to rile me up. I have no Gemini planets and only have Neptune in the 3rd house but boy does Mercury on MC make itself felt.

    As Saturn conjuncts the other end of my stellium, and Moon is somewhere in the mix, and they are all aspected by Uranus on my AC, I find that I exhibit Venus in Gemini characteristics (strongly), Venus in Capricorn characteristics (packed 10th), Venus in Aquarius characteristics (also strongly), even Venus in Cancer characteristics occasionally, along with my Venus in Leo (my preferred way of loving and being loved). Some days it feels like being 5 people in 1. Trust me, its quite a riot in there.

    What I’m trying to say, perhaps ineloquently, is that a) our Venuses are modified by conjunctions to strongly placed planets and b) Venus is modified by the house it is in c) sometimes we project our Venuses onto our partners. We own some aspects of Venus and if our Venuses are RX, find the rest of those traits in our partners.

  10. My boyfriend is a Venus in Gemini and none of this sounds ANYTHING like him. Confused here

    • Ascendant in gemini with Venus in gemini more than likely would make someone more inclined to cheat.

  11. Venus in Gemini and Sun in Cancer. I am not a cheater!
    I do get bored quickly and move on.

  12. Gemini venus on said:

    My venus is in Gemini but this is sidereal chart . But my moon is in scorpio .. Let me know when we can perform these tests coz I don’t cheat …. Have I been tempted yes , but never have I cheated

  13. I am a mid 30s Gemini female with my Gemini in venus…
    I think the only thing that keeps me even mildly at bay sexually, is my moon being in Virgo, so I’m shy. However, if you ask you will more than likely receive with me. I can’t seem to remain faithful, never have been able to, and love two or more men.

  14. I have venus in gemini and yes I have been completely faithful in a relationship, a lot of things apply to planets (aspects) so thats entirely wrong!!! It may take a moment to make sure the person is right but if I’m commited then I’m with that person.

  15. ThePhoenixRises on said:

    I’m a Scorpio man and I’ve been having an affair with a Gemini woman for over two years. Or should I say she’s been having an affair with me! This article really seems to hit it on the head. She was born on May 22 which is supposed to be the epitome of Gemini. only thing that is different is she was the one to say she wanted to marry me, have my kids, spend her life with me. Said she wanted to leave her boyfriend for me. I didn’t want to get serious and I became a quest for her to concur. I was content with our arrangement until she got under my skin one day And I realized that I didn’t want to lose her.

    I see now I messed up by expressing this to her. Dispite all of the reassurance she gave me, how non judgemental she came across, our deep mental and spiritual connection she still reverted back to her core Gemini ways. She broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and it has been tough. Especially since she told me she was leaving me for someone else. This guy is a high school sweetheart that I think she never got over. Only thing is he lives like 15 hours away. She claimed she talked to him for a week via online and was “in love”. Haha what a joke but I get it.

    Valebtines day was yesterday and it was difficult to see her so happy and secretly communicating with this guy through Facebook memes and quotes. i am just scared I am going to lose her forever. This guy is an Aries (so is her real boyfriend that she hates lol) and is super witty and silly and funny. He’s everything I was in the beginning and wasn’t in the end. Right now with all of the 2017 astrological fated eclipses, transitions and patterns it seems this Aries guy has the luck of the relationship gods right now which scares me a lot. However I’m starting to believe that the more “fated” a relationship is due to astrological events the shorter and more karmic and educational it will be. My relationship with her was karmic too but wasn’t instantaneous and dispite our funk we lasted almost 3 years. It grew on me and took a while to do so. They say “you know when you know” right? Well what I know is I’ve never had a love like ours ever grow the way it did dispite the unhealthy circumstances surrounding it. Deep down I still think we’re meant to be together I just wasn’t in the right state of mind yet to handle someone like her. Plus we were both obviously still dealing with our past. My old insecurities came out and her past is still technically the present lol it just wasn’t the right time.

    Deep down though I know that dispite what she says about being in “love” or how happy she makes herself look on Facebook that it’s a rebound long distance relationship and will probably end like one too. She wants fun and adventure but wants something serious too it’s strange. Seriousness only seems to scare her when it’s coming from the other person more. That’s a jewel for anyone trying to date a Gemini thank me later lol Like I said she’s still in another relationship with someone and lives with them. I think she thinks she will break up with him for the right person but there are deep seeded issues there that nobody can fix but herself and maybe she never will.

    I’ve seen the real her and I love her more than ever even with her shitty Gemini flaws. I finally feel like I understand her and I feel so dumb. I want her back but I am in no communication stage right now. We like each other’s posts on fb still sometimes so that must mean something. Maybe she’s just trying to be amicable but knowing her I don’t think so. Our breakup is too fresh she should be ignoring me lol

    I know she sounds like a terrible person but she isn’t however I think she thinks she is sometimes. I want to contact her so bad and say something but I know that whatever I have to say she needs to see on her own. I miss her so much. I’m hoping maybe Venus retrograde in a few months gives us another chance to start over. To be honest I actually feel like we have a better chance now at making this work if it’s really meant to be we just both have shit we have to do. I know she always wondered about this Aries guy from her past and I think she’s just getting it out of her system. Geminis seem to be looking for a lover to make them whole again. They are love nomads basically. I feel like this year with everything happening out there with the planets that it will provide the right atmosphere for her to leave this guy finally and most likely the person she will be involved with at the time will not work out because she will want something new. Or something new but familiar again. That’s why I’m just backing off for now. She went from “I want to break up” to “I need space and I don’t know what I want”. I just don’t know what to do sometimes it’s hard letting the universe take control by in trying.

    If anyone has any advice on how I should approach her or whatever please feel free to comment. Should I message her? Should I want s certain time? Should I just let her come back to me? I can always start no contact over again with her. I’m just working on myself and finishing what I need to do that she kept me from doing. I need to show her I am a man again. Love is so hard.

    • Venus in Gemini people are incapable of only settling and loving one person at a time. Geminis in general are hard to pin down, let alone someone whose venus is in Gemini. Perhaps your bond was so strong because in a past life you two were once together. Perhaps you were soul mates that found their way to each other again, but the stars are not aligned this go round. I too have had a love like this. It started as an affair on both sides, we were, are, both married. I had never have had the desire and commitment to anyone ever, until I met him. It was over 4 years, and we parted ways as I knew I wasn’t right for him, and couldn’t remain in a single relationship, I needed more than both him and my spouse could provide…no matter how much I loved him. Trust that this is the right thing for you, letting her go. The timing is not right. In older age perhaps she may be able to settle down, but understand that it’s more than likely the best for you to move on. She was probably lying to you all along and seeing this “one week” guy for quite some time. It’s sp very hard to lose a love like that, even though I left for his best interest, I’m still grieving heavily. Love is even letting someone go.

    • Hello!Im a scorpio woman in a relationship with a gemini man with venus in gemini for three years.I cant describe to you what I have been through!There is a huge sexual attraction between us,but as you said n stability and serious comitment.He drives me crazy with his comes and goes.We fight and I leave him.When I do that for more than a month ,he is the first to come back to me.So let her belive she is losing you forever!Dont comtact her at all.Be tough as the scorpio you are.And when she comes back .because she will sooner or later do your scorpio sex tricks!They cant say no to us.Patience is the key word.Be there for her,but not to close!!!And bare in mind they are more lunatic than cancers.The only element that interacts with air is water.We provoke reations to them.That aries guy is fire!She is playing with him.But not with you.Because air cant eliminate water.

  16. Ima a Gemini sun Taurus moon Scorpio rising and yes I have Venus in Gemini I have never cheated any more details I need to put

    • Ascendant sign in gemini are more prone to cheating,not Sun in gemini or venus in gemini.The author or writer has it all wrong.. Now If someone has Venus and the ascendant in conjunction of the sign THEN BUYER BEWARE should be the primary warning label…gemini in the ascendant takes on a different description than sun or venus in gemini. Add another gemini sign in sun ,Venus even the moon and the likely possibility of that person being a cheater doubles..

  17. Chellwolf on said:

    I am not unfaithful. For your information I’ve been in a relationship for 4 months and not once thought about it breaking up. I have never lied for there is no need to for I’m entirely faithful to my loved one. I may even marry them. So Gemini are not unfaithful. Some are but some aren’t.

  18. I have a sun in Gemini, a Venus in Gemini but a moon in Pisces. That moon in Pisces is far more powerful than the Gemini Venus at times. I crave a deep nurturing love. I feel love in my soul, it is not only mental or skin deep for me. The combination of my sun and moon makes me such a dreamer and when Im hooked on someone, I cant get them out of my head.

  19. It’s not so much if you your Venus is in Gemini, but if your Ascendant/Rising is in Gemini and is closely bonded with a fire sign or air sign in your moon or venus especially conjunction with moon or venus”meaning the same sign in gemini” you are more inclined to or woman or gay….gemini in the ascendant is the so called “trigger”… Not even sun in gemini is bad compared to gemini ascendant…

  20. Absolute bs about not being able to be monogamous! I’m sun in Taurus, libra moon and I have never been unfaithful in my life. Think it’s totally unfair to brand EVERY person who is Venus in Gemini the same. It obviously varies depending on the rest of your chart.

  21. Charlene on said:

    I am Taurus sun and Scorpio moon Scorpio rising with the obvious Venus is Gemini. I was in a 9 year relationship which 7 of those were spent married. I did NOT cheat. He did after 2 and a half years and I still did Not. I think that most everything else is a good explanations of how I behave in love and showing my affection.

  22. VenusInGem on said:

    *raises hands* Mutant Venus in Gemini here!
    I’m a Taurus Sun/Mercury, have a 12th house Gemini Venus, a 4th house Libra Moon-Pluto conjunct, and 1st house Cancer Saturn, and 5th house Scorpio Uranus.
    The flirting part is much on the spot, but when commitment comes in, I stick to it like glue. I have no desire to cheat, but unfortunately have been cheated on by my first love. That experience absolutely devastated me and my 15 years of marriage. I now swear off commitment like a plague, and now I’m non-monogamous and all my relationships are casual.
    I’m in such a better place in my life. I’m pretty sure more good things will come in terms of relationship, but so far life has been serendipitously wonderful and blessed.

    • hi, mutant.
      i bet a lot of venus gem natives are tired of being misjudged by astrologers. after all, there are 11 other places to have venus!

      then there are other aspecting planets…what o’ clock is it on so-and-so’s chart…

      all in all, i am about the uplift and further exploration of our beloved and ancient pseudoscience. i don’t really mind if an astrologer has an opinion (or an insight) that i don’t agree with, as long as we can reason together and get closer to understanding. astrology can be such an awesome tool to help people get understanding about the patterns of their own lives. love lives!

      i have really felt awesomest about the reflections i have gotten from people who i have done readings and counselings for. that feeling of ‘how did you know that? that really helps me…i have been wondering about that my entire life!’ and tears and such, well, that is what makes being an astrologer so very rewarding.

      but it’s such an ancient science, and of course through history there have been antiintellectual forces who have tried hard to silence it! Galileo, Copernicus, Sir Isaac Newton…they were victims of venal and envious human evil on the part of the anti-intellectuals of their time…they just wanted to keep people ignorant about themselves and the environment (stars, planets, the mind) all around them.

      i think venus in gemini people have beautiful, sexy minds. so there.