Gemini in Love

Gemini in Love

By on June 26, 2011

“I Love Variety, Communication, and Networking”

The first secret to know about a Gemini in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Gemini person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Gemini will be a “Gemini in love.”

The Gemini lover is the charmer of the zodiac. They express affection verbally and cleverly, but they only feel it skin-deep. You may be tempted to believe one loves you because of how excited they get when you’re together, but they get just as excited when chasing a butterfly or ordering dinner. It’s hard to tell if one is sincerely interested in you because Venus in Gemini is talkative and friendly with everybody and their mother. Venus in Gemini is a kid at heart, completely at peace with lying if it suits them. Like children, they are also endlessly curious. They’re into everything (it’s been said that they have “a finger in every pie.”). The Gemini lover’s taste is always changing, and they have a constant need for new stimuli. The only thing that you can be sure of about your Gemini lover is that they will not be faithful in a traditional relationship. Monogamy is absolutely impossible for someone with Venus in Gemini. (If you happen to have Venus in Gemini and are claiming that you have been faithful in a relationship, please comment at the bottom of this article; we’d like to perform some tests on you, because you, dear, must be some sort of mutant.)

To be fair, the Gemini need for variety is not so much sexual as it is a need for mental stimulation. The Gemini lover thrives on new information. Gemini is the “net-worker” of the zodiac. They have a need to disseminate information and connect people. This is why they’re driven to talk to everyone, at the lunch counter, around town, on the street, and in bed. And they are good at it, too. They are never at a loss for words, having enviable verbal skills. They carry themselves uprightly in public, fitting right in to any social crowd. At parties, they are the center of every talk circle. They go home from a party knowing what everyone was talking about, wearing, and eating. And they took it all in within the first half hour of the party. It’s as if Venus in Gemini has a receptor antenna on top of one’s head, receiving all sorts of information. They are totally aware of the people in their environment. Not the feelings of people (like the water signs are) but rather the rational thoughts and ideas of people. Robert Pattinson and Megan Fox both have Venus in Gemini, as did President JFK.

The Gemini lover never really means any harm; these are not fighters like Aries, nor manipulators like Scorpio. They can’t understand why you’re upset that they left you home alone with your boring movie while they went to look for something more fun to do. They are sincerely confused when you get angry at them for forgetting your birthday. They want you to understand that the reason they forgot your birthday is because the lady at the lunch counter had the most interesting story to tell, so your Gemini lover never made it your house that night. They are like easily distracted children. And you always forgive them because they have the most charming smiles and always say the right words. They like to remain friends with all of their past lovers, they cannot bear to end friendships. Friendships mean more to them than romances.

They may like to talk during sex (although Mars in Gemini is more indicative of that). Actually, they may prefer to talk about sex rather than doing it. Unless, of course, it’s a threesome. They cannot turn down a threesome. Males with this placement may seem feminine at times, but this does not mean they are necessarily homosexual. Gemini is considered an asexual sign. They can feel intimately close with both sexes. But intimately close for a Gemini is always only skin-deep. Gemini intimacy is a friendly companionship of a detached nature, like an acquaintance. This is the most emotionally-detached sign of the zodiac.

If they love you, they’ll show it lightly and playfully; no heavy emotional displays or extravagant gifts. Theirs is not a passionate-type of love. There will be no deep bonding; they simply don’t have the time. This charming lover will pile on the flattering comments and witty conversation. They’ll court you by taking you to a movie, and they’ll want to discuss the movie afterward over dinner or coffee. Or they may prefer to skip the movie and jump right into the discussion. They’ll talk to you for hours. They are great conversationalists; they have a fundamental need to communicate everything. In the past, Venus in Gemini courted with charming, folded-paper messages and phone calls. Today, they’ll shower you with witty text messages and emails. They’ll take you to all the happening events, and they don’t mind if you invite extra friends to come along. The more the merrier for Venus in Gemini. At dance clubs, they have just as much fun chatting with the bartender, the DJ, the bouncer, and the bathroom attendant as they do dancing. When they have your head spinning from all the social entanglements and 100-mile-per-hour conversations, then it may be safe to guess that they’re interested in you. Enjoy it while you can because it will not last very long. They’ll move on to another flavor tomorrow.

On the positive side, the male Gemini lover is probably the only male in the zodiac that is not attracted to a person based on their looks. The Gemini lover is romantically attracted to brains. He wants a smart, intellectual lover who knows how to carry on a decent conversation. Sure, half-dressed, sexy women with cleavage may distract him for a moment, but he will not be romantically satisfied with such women. When it comes to physical appearance, Venus in Gemini is more attracted to a skinny, athletic-type than a rounded, full-figure woman. But regardless of looks, intelligence and quick wit is what turns them on.  Peppy, perky, outgoing and/or tomboyish types also turn them on.

How to Love Venus in Gemini

To make your Gemini lover feel loved, be a listener. They need immediate sounding boards for all of their thoughts. If you do this for them, they will feel very close to you. But you must also be talkative, or else they will get bored and leave you. Provide mental stimulation by asking them lots of questions about any subject. Be peppy and outgoing. They need variety, so be interesting. If you have a split personality, even better. To keep a Gemini happy you must allow them freedom to come and go as they please. If you try to cage them in at all, they will disappear. Never mention “commitment” or “marriage” because they will disappear. Don’t be boring, wanting to stay home all the time, because they will leave you. If you’re detecting a pattern here, pat yourself on the back. The Gemini lover is never a permanent lover; they will leave you. Gemini is the first air sign and, like air, comes and goes as it pleases. It’s not that they don’t love you. It’s simply that their need for variety and constant new stimuli inhibits their chances for a lasting relationship or for intimate bonding. If you provide enough freedom, mental stimulation, and forgiveness, your Gemini lover will always return to you after flying off for a bit. You must ask yourself if your nerves can handle that.

Note: Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will greatly alter your love style. Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life.

Read more about Venus in Gemini. Read about the Air Sign Love Language since Gemini is an air sign.

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231 comments on “Gemini in Love

  1. It’s very obvious that whoever wrote this hates people worth Venus in Gemini. SERIOUSLY!

    • Anjelia on said:

      don’t worry venous in Scorpio report is even worse. It sounds scary. But i did not take offence to it. But i think they are all a bit exaggerated to make them funny.

    • zadiifh on said:

      Hello anne how are you?

    • Vimukthi Pankaja on said:

      I have Venus in Gemini and I fell in love with the writer. What’s written is 100% accurate. It’s written by a person who truly understand the Venus in Gemini (unaffected by other planetary placements and I love this article for it accuracy. I’m a big fan of that accuracy thing

  2. Yes, I have Venus in Gemini and never physically or emotionally cheated on my partner. But mentally yes one time i used to think of other guys during sex (i’m so ashamed but i try to be honest). I do not like to lie but yes i can lie if it suits me. I love very strongly but do not fall in love quite easily but yes i do not always show my love in the normal romantic way. I treat people how they treat me and give more than i get in relationships. I do not like parties as the crowds drain me mentally so i prefer small gatherings and one on one socializing. I am finding similarities but huge differences in this article. I am not an extrovert i’m an introverted extrovert because i do not go out or party but because of my sun which is also in Gemini i can socialize quite well. I prefer movies, restaurants, beaches (which has alot of people i know but i love the openness of the place), small intimate get-togethers at home, hikes, and anything to do with outdoors. Honestly i hate enclosed spaces with large crowds and anything that restricts me and my movements.

  3. I just found out that I am a Venus in Gemini, never once have I ever cheated on a partner. However, I have been tempted… my Sun sign is Taurus, Moon in Gemini.

  4. I’m Venus in Gemini and have been faithful. 27.4.86 – 11.30 am – Zagreb

    Yet I will admit I thought about cheating and maybe would have. And I DID have a chance or two but I decided not to. I understand what it means that I “will” cheat, but maybe it has more to do with the energies and not with the actual act.

  5. Gemini sun, mercury, venus & mars. Moon in Aquarius. Never wanted to cheat. Hate lies. Rather be on my own than with a love cheat. Cheating is usually deep insecurity or deep vanity. I really don’t have either. Very independent with a honest, open heart. Nothing would make me cheat as I’m true to myself. Why would I intentionally want to hurt someone in that way? I’m 47 and have met some great men in my life. Love life. Have a beautiful child. Not all live so honestly but that usually puts me off. Why be with someone who wants to be somewhere else? Makes no sense to me when you could be enjoying your own life independently but happily. Why get in a relationship if my intention is to be elsewhere? Don’t get it. When I find a honest heart my eyes will be more open again to being part of a loving couple. Otherwise, I’m not selling out to someone dishonest & sly.

    • It is your moon in Aquarius. that gives you your loyalty integrity and honesty.

      • if so, then I’m very grateful.. although with so many Gemini planets, I do wonder if Gemini’s get a really bad press.. certainly not in my nature to be a cheat.. can’t abide all that dishonesty & insincerity.. what a complete waste of the precious time we’re given..

  6. Hi I have venus in Gemini and am not a cheat. Am I a mutant?

  7. Shahidy16 on said:

    I’m venus in gemini..and i’m absolutely loyal in my relationship..maybe it’s because i’m a cancer and my moon is in capricorn.i think i’ve that loyalty sense of cancer and capricorn 😉 ^_^

  8. Hi there, thanks for this post! I’m a female Venus in Gemini (as well as Sun, Moon, Rising, and Mercury) and am nearing my third year anniversary with one partner. I’ve never cheated on any partner despite extended periods of long distance and even times when we were not on monogamous terms. Besides a few brief phases, I’ve mostly had serious and seriously intimate relationships. Would love your opinion – june 1st, 1992 6:19 AM in Tucson, Arizona.

    • I am not an expert but maybe you have placements of pluto and saturn in the 5th or 7th house. And other aspects to the planets in your natal chart. As well as the aspects in the synastry and composite chart with your partner.

  9. Hi, pls I am get confused of
    this, I was born on May
    17, 1988 what kind of
    Gemini planets do I belong.

    • Astrology Library on said:

      On the day you were born, Venus moved from Gemini into Cancer at 4:27 pm (GMT). Because of this, you would need to know your birth time to know your Venus sign for sure. (You can also read about Venus in Cancer to see which one you relate to most.) Regardless of birth time, you have Moon and Mercury in Gemini. Your Sun is in Taurus. I hope that helps.

  10. I was born 4th july 80 can you tell me something?

  11. I am not a cheater. Nor have I ever cheated. BUT everything else is very right. And if there is no mental simulation I teND to get ever antsy and bored.

    June 22 1988 @21:54

  12. Apparently, I’m a mutant. I greatly value deep bonding and companionship. The idea of playing the field before I settle down does somewhat appeal to me though. I’ve never related to the social aspect of Gemini. I’ve always been more of an introvert rather than extrovert. The last thing I am is a social butterfly. Socially awkward and insecure, slow and hesitant, I stutter, I’m self-conscious.

    Moon in Virgo, Rising Scorpio and Gemini Sun.

    20th June, 1988, 19:52, Reykjavík, Iceland.

  13. Saphyree on said:

    HAHA Omg this is true!!!! Im.taurus sun but i Can never be faithful!!! Lol Gemini problems

  14. I am a girl with sun in taurus moon in pisces and venus in dob is 11 may 1996. 4.15 am.. i am in love with another guy having sun in taurus moon in scorpio and venus in gemini… for ovr 2 yrs… bt i ws nvr abl 2 tl him..i am compatible with him? I really cant xprs my true feelings to him….will i evr cheat him??.. or he evr cheat me.!? We r jst mor thn frndz….nly onc in lyf he sd he lov cnt marry…as he has family issue…i dont knw wht 2 do?? …i nvr flt ths strng 2 any1 in my lyf…he s my 1st love….he hd 2 rltns b4… bt he completely opn up evrytng 2 me…ll i evr get him..?? Plzzzzzz…… hlpp me undrstndd…..plzzzz do replyyy!!!!!!….

  15. Hey …. im lara im cancer and i have venus in gemini ……. and i am so faithful

  16. Florina mos on said:

    IM a Gemini and I ve got Venus in Gemini too. You can’t get more Gemini than this. No cheating. No fingers in all pies. I’m very faithful and committed. Very inaccurate article. You can’t just put everybody in the same matrix.

  17. I’m a sun Gemini and Venus Gemini and I am nothing like the description. Bday:June 9th 1988. I’m extremely loyal and very introverted! Am I reading my Venus sign wrong?

  18. Hi there, I am Stacy. dont know if you are still reading comments of this article. will be really happy if I can receive aby replies. 🙂
    I was born on June 27th in 1990. According to my friend, I am a Germini in Venus. I had four relationships. Its hard for me to admit but I cheated on all of them. Not physically, it is emtional infidelity. Felt mentally dependant on the other guy, instead of my boyfriends. I cant bear physical infideltiy. All distant relationships, so I was kind of getting tired of maintaining at the end.
    I am now in a relationship with a guy I really like! But at the same time, I still have feelings for another guy….. How is that possible? Could it be explained by the star sign or other factors may affect ad well?
    Some traits mentioned in the article do sound like me. It is true that most of the times I am friendly and talkative. And selective of telling the truth. Yet, a net-worker doesnt sound like me.
    Could you tell me more about myself?? hahaha the question sounds awkward I know. Just want to know myself better in any possible ways.

  19. I am a Venus in Gemini and Mars in Gemini. I have been married 8 years and never has cheating crossed my mind. I do not even play around online or have close male friends.
    I am 39 but when I was younger I did cheat on occasion. I learned from my mistakes and avoid those things that I know lures couple into infidelity such as going to bars/clubs with my girlfriends, chatting on FB with males friends and ex’s and the other usual pitfalls.

  20. I am a Gemini in Venus. 29 June 1966. Never cheated! Extremely loyal. Sun sign Cancer, moon sign Scorpio. I have Venus in the 12th house. Also Mars in Gemini in the first house. I read a lot and am very talkative but only to people I know. Can converse on any topic under the sun. Driven to be knowledgable. Good article…but loyalty is my strong point and what I expect. True about the emotional detachment. A great need for freedom.

  21. Lesley-Ann Maxwell on said:

    I am a Gemini woman and I have never cheated!! How do I know if I am in Venus?! Thank you


  22. fieryvenus on said:

    Me and my husband is Venus in Gemini but he is faithful so far. I was faithful so far before I went into the whole game and saw how amazing it is to have a lot of variety. Can you do some tests on my husband’s astrology? haha

  23. Hello!

    How would a mars in capricorn affect the personality of a man with venus in gemini?

  24. I am a gemini lover in 12 house also my AC ,Mercury and moon in gemini on 1 house but i feel i am not all of that is the other plants there effecting the character.. I get bord but not easily after i tried every thing i give up and move and never come back but i get easily on another relationship. Is that normal by the way my sun is in cancer second house

    • Also, i am in relationships with man with Capricorn sun and the venous in Aquarius, Mercury capricorn and mars libra do you think we match?

  25. Venus in Gemini, never cheated, but it is in the 10th conjuncting my midheaven in Taurus… Cancer sun Taurus moon, Mars in Sagittarius… opposing Venus.

  26. jackie on said:

    Well my sun sign is Aries (more evolved one), moon & Neptune in Sagittarius, Mercury & Ascendant in Pisces, Jupiter & Saturn both in Virgo. Unfortunately my Venus is in Gemini.

    As far as love & relationships are concerned, I absolutely can’t relate to this article. I’m more of a traditional type, I prefer to be courted rather than the dating. I also want the guy to dominate & not me (despite me being an Aries) & I take relationships very seriously & am very cautious before I say YES to a suitor because I want to make sure that the guy will fit into my life & that what we’ll be having is a serious relationship & not just a casual fling or worst a fwb or a pseudo-relationship. Sure I get crushes with more than one person but whenever I’m in a relationship or in a courtship, for some reason my interest in other guys disappears completely let alone dating them. Admittedly I’m also shy & introverted so I absolutely not a flirty type of being. I even get criticized for being non-social as I feel uncomfortable in parties or any large gatherings & that I need to be more sociable. I’m easily get jealous though.

    I cringed at what is written here so much that I didn’t finish reading it & went straight here to comment.

    • jackie on said:

      Oh & my bf is a Capricorn sun, mercury, neptune & venus and to be honest, being a dominant Cappy in his chart, he displays well the typical Capricorn traits and to be honest we are both very happy with each other, we’re both family-oriented, practical, thrifty & we share the same values when it comes to morals & religion. I can’t ask for anything more from him despite what astrology says about our compatibility.

      Can you do a test for both me as an individual & also in me & my bf’s relationship compatibility.

  27. This is bull I’m a Sun in cancer moon in virgo reading this is horrible when I’m in love I’m faithful in fact no one else even exist to me I’m laid back and down to earth I don’t wanna be the center of attention and I don’t talk to strangers I’m a to myself type of person more like an observer ….try again this is not accurate

  28. I have Venus in Gemini and have pretty much been faithful to all my girlfriends. I’ve had lots of girlfriends over the years, but usually only date one at a time. I’m cancer sun, gemini venus, sag rising, sag mars. So I wouldn’t say we’re all unfaithful. I have never settled down though because I don’t want to be tied down, but when I’m with someone I am pretty much faithful for the most part.

  29. Debbie Lyons on said:

    Feel free to do a study on me because I am a Venus in Gemini, and although I did have an affair, it was while I was in the process of getting a divorce.

  30. Lady Rutkus on said:

    I have Venus in Gemini and I’m extremely loyal. It doesn’t matter if we are not together yet, I will remain faithful until we both agree we should part ways. I obsessively care about people’s feelings. Cancer is my moon sign so I’m really emotional and care for people.

  31. Georgina on said:

    Venus in Gemini here, 29 coming 30 soon and still haven’t been able to settle down.
    It’s like itchy feet syndrome after the initial buzz wears off.

    I’m not a serial cheater though I just get very bored to the point of actual depression, it’s a curse.

  32. ANNASTACIA on said:


  33. I’m a Leo sun Aquarius moon with Scorpio rising. I have been faithful in a relationship I think it’s because my Mars is in Cancer. (Along with my Gemini Venus) but this article is quite on point. But we can be faithful if we’re really in love or feel like we are.

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