“I Work First, Love After”
The first secret to know about a Capricorn in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Capricorn person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Capricorn will be a “Capricorn in love.” Find out your Venus sign.
Venus in Capricorn is a person of substance and worth. They have been referred to as cold, unfeeling, unemotional, and even stingy with love. But that is not entirely accurate. They may only appear that way because romantic love is usually not a priority for them. Building a successful career is a prerequisite for them to be happy in love. They simply cannot, or will not, enjoy a love relationship until they have satisfied their goals at work. Unfortunately, this is a “catch-22” since they are never really satisfied with their level of achievement at work. They always think they can do better.
If you are lucky enough to catch a Venus in Capricorn after they have achieved some level of career success, be prepared for Victorian-style courtship. You will be his queen or king. But not in a flashy, Leo way; rather, in a non-flashy, tasteful way. You’ll sit side-by-side on your thrones and enjoy life. Whether sitting on the sand watching the sunset on a private beach, or watching T.V. in his quality-furnished living room, he wants to enjoy with you the life he’s built. See, he’s not cold and unfeeling. He’ll only appear that way during his “building years.”
If you happen to attract his attention during his building years, he will immediately size you up without your knowledge of it. He has high standards and will not waste time on you if you don’t meet them. This isn’t coldness. It’s just that Venus in Capricorn places a high value on finding the right partner. There is a lot at stake for them because they plan on sharing their empire with their partner.
If your Venus in Capricorn lover is still in his “building years,” you’ll have to trick him into taking a break from work for love. It is not easy for them to get into a loving mood, but once they are in the mood, WOW. You’ll see then why the sign of Capricorn is at the top of the astrology chart. They are sensual in bed, and they take their time to satisfy you. Fire sign Venus lovers will get impatient with this style, but earth and water lovers will experience immense ecstasy with Venus in Capricorn. You’ll find yourself resenting that they returned to work the next morning. They’ll leave you wishing you could actually live in the bed together.
But you’ll have to endure his absence if you want his love again. If you don’t behave, he will not find you worthy of true partnership. If he doesn’t find you worthy, he will not bother with you very long. If he does find you worthy to rule his empire with him, he sticks around for life. Once in love, he follows through with unparalleled determination and stamina, in the relationship and in bed.
They will be interested in children and grandchildren. Not because they like children, but because they must leave a legacy.
They will keep their work life separate from home. You will never truly know what (or who) they’re doing at work. Keep that in mind, whether your Venus in Capricorn lover is male or female. They work hard, perhaps harder than any other sign, but they’re still only human, which is difficult for them to accept. The pressures of hard work can weigh anybody down. Venus is Capricorn is the least likely type to crack under pressure, but it’s not impossible for him/her to crack. In the rare case that this person cracks from over-work, they will inevitably be at work. And they’ll have sex with the first person they see (this applies to both girls and guys). They’ll never admit this to you.
This isn’t to say that all Venus in Capricorn people are unfaithful in relationships. I’ve explained here the issues that can lead one to unfaithfulness. If the circumstances are such that they find release at home with you, they would have no need for unfaithfulness. See, theirs is not the same as the air-sign’s infidelity due to general fickleness, or fire-sign affairs of passion. For Venus in Capricorn, any infidelity would be due to a release of pressure (that, and he can’t resist a girl in a business suit).
Even so, he doesn’t want to be a failure at your relationship. If he’s made a life with you, he will always fulfill his duty at home. He manages his work affairs and his duty at home by keeping them separate in his head, and it works for him. In his mind, he doesn’t love you any less because of it. He works hard at work in order to build a good life for the two of you, and he expects you to know that. When he works late every night, he’ll say it’s for you. If you’re beginning to think this guy/girl is a bastard, remember, not all Venus in Capricorn men/women cheat. Many of them are really working late. They are capable of loyalty.
The irony: He keeps work and home separate in his head, but work and love are intricately bound together for Venus in Capricorn. He cannot enjoy love without work first.
The saddest thing to see is a Venus in Capricorn person who is getting along in years yet has not fulfilled his work goals. This person may never make room for a romantic love relationship.
In some cases, Venus in Capricorn may choose his queen before he builds his career, and then wants her to sit tight and wait for him to build the life that they’ll enjoy together in ten years. His intentions are noble, but many partners will not wait that long to enjoy life. Venus in Capricorn doesn’t understand this, and he usually ends up feeling rejected personally instead. After several prospective partners leave him, he can suffer depression.
All people with Venus in Capricorn can suffer extended bouts of depression. They can occasionally sink into thinking they haven’t achieved enough success to be worthy. They can also be suspicious. Another problem for Venus in Capricorn is that their need for self-control and emotional reserve can come across as coldness to others. This is an earth sign, so emotional reserve comes with this package. People with Venus in the other earth signs do not mind this. But everyone else will have problems with his aloof, impersonal approach. Even Venus in the air signs can consider him cold, since he lacks the lightheartedness that air signs have.
When Venus in Capricorn has decided that he’s ready for love, he’ll be fully prepared to face the work and responsibilities of having a relationship. They have what it takes to love you forever. Their style of affection is reserved, cautious, and serious, but it’s also sensual, and meaningful. Don’t mistake their style for coldness; this is how they love.
What type of girl is the Venus in Capricorn man attracted to? Naturally, someone willing to sit on the throne next to him. It’s not enough for you to be financially wealthy. You have to look and act the part. They’re attracted to traditionally classy girls, prim and proper in public. They’re not so interested in your looks, per se. Rather, they want to be sure you make them look good in public. Wild girls are ultimately a turn off for Venus in Capricorn. They’re looking for someone who looks good next to them on a political campaign poster and/or who doesn’t mind staying home with the kids. Either one will turn him on, but if you can pull off both, you’re a keeper. They’re usually attracted to their boss or secretary.
The Venus in Capricorn woman is powerful. She is strong, confident, yet unlike the fire signs, she can be diplomatic, too. What a package. Regardless of her Sun sign, there is always a strong quality of substance and worth about this girl. Even the wilder Sagittarius and Aquarius, if they have Venus in Capricorn, have steadiness when it comes to romance. They will not take love lightly. The Venus in Capricorn lady may choose to wear the pants in the relationship. But no one looks better than she does in a pants suit. The Venus in Capricorn lady is a prize for life. To be sure, she does not need a man.
Celebrities with Venus in Capricorn include Jennifer Love Hewitt, Miley Cyrus, Tyra Banks, Scarlett Johansson, Lucy Liu, Brad Pitt, Anthony Hopkins, J. Edgar Hoover, and Elvis Presley.
How to Love Venus in Capricorn
How do you make your Venus in Capricorn lover feel loved? First, and most importantly, they need to be sure that you’re seriously committed to them before they give of themselves to you. Commitment equals love to them. They will not endure a half-hearted relationship. They are prone to depression, so remind them of their worth, often.
They are attracted to work and responsibilities, so make him feel needed as the provider of the home. Where other guys run away, Venus in Capricorn is attracted to the duties of home and family.
If you really want to make him feel loved, let him work overtime. Venus in Capricorn is a workaholic. Working actually gives them pleasure. Let them work until they drop, and they’ll drop right into your arms.
If you’re trying to attract a Venus in Capricorn lover, you must act like a queen (or king). Think blue blood class. Always treat him/her with respect. They will not tolerate crude or low-class behavior from you. Flashing your money in their face will not work. Remember, it’s not your money they’re attracted to; it’s traditional classiness. Go with a short, French manicure instead of long, red acrylic nails. Dress conservatively rather than revealing. They are concerned about reputation.
Don’t be emotionally-needy. Or better yet, have a separate source for emotional nourishment. Venus in Capricorn cannot be a shoulder for you to lean on, emotionally. If he has his Sun in Scorpio or Pisces, he’s capable of providing emotional support but with Venus in Capricorn, he does not enjoy it as part of his love life. His love style is not emotional.
Trying to attract a Venus in Capricorn lover is like applying for a job a large corporation. You may get lucky, or you may never even get noticed. He wants to see your resume, but he’s afraid to ask you for it. You’ll score points with him if you give him your resume up front. If you happen to be his co-worker, you’re a foot in. He can be easily seduced at work. He doesn’t only love to work, but he also loves to love at work. The traditional secretary/boss affair applies to him. He’s a sucker for a lady boss.
At this point, it helps to decide whether you’re going to be his business associate or a stay-at-home mom. Remember, he’s attracted to both, but he may have penciled you in for one or the other. Confirm your choice with him, and then buy the necessary wardrobe. You’re going to have to act and dress the part.
If he’s the type that wants kids, he doesn’t necessarily need you to be home with the kids. He just needs to be sure that someone will be at home managing the kids, cooking, and cleaning. If you don’t want to be a stay-at-home mom, then find a proper nanny, a housekeeper, and a cook. But if you and your Capricorn lover cannot afford this, then you must be willing to stay home and play homemaker. In that case, you don’t have to pose with him for his campaign photos. He’ll see you when he gets home. Be sure to have dinner ready, or a reservation at a restaurant, if you’re smart. Either one is okay with him, as long as you have dinner under control.
If you can meet their stringent qualifications, and if you can wait until they build their kingdom, you’ll be rewarded with a thoroughbred lover who will make room for you at the top of his mountain.
Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.