I love Truth, Freedom, and the Pursuit of Fun
The first secret to know about a Sagittarius in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Sagittarius person. Only someone with planet Venus in Sagittarius will be a “Sagittarius in love.” (Venus Sign Calculator)
Venus in Sagittarius will sow his wild oats far and wide before settling down. Sagittarius puts fun first, with the claim that he hasn’t found the right person to settle down with. The truth is that these folks are terrified of being reigned in. They explore new relationships, not for the purpose of finding a partner, but simply for the purpose of exploring. They are broadminded, tolerant, popular, and have many friends. They get along with every kind of person, religion, race, sexual orientation, and socio-economic status. Their curiosity rivals that of Gemini. But unlike Gemini, these lovers can finally become attached in love.
In love, Sagittarius is warm, idealistic, generous, free-loving, enthusiastic, and a clumsy fool. Once they fall for you (quite literally, fall), their idealistic natures shine brightly. When they get inspired, they can quote poetry and share a romantic evening as nicely as any water sign. But they’ll bore of it quickly, after one night. Their deep-rooted restless urge to move on can cause problems in love relationships. And their capacity for emotional bonding is very limited. These are rowdy lovers who’s idea of bonding is to hold hands with each other on a roller coaster. Or hold hands while sky-diving. Or race each other on motorcycles.
While that may sound like exciting fun to many people, the difference with Sagittarius is that for them, it is how they experience love. When they offer to take you on an adventure, it’s quite possible that they have fallen in love with you. They will not opt for a romantic dinner; that would bore them. If you’re hoping for a soul-level declaration of undying love, seek elsewhere. Sagittarius sees that as some sort of communism.
If your Sagittarius lover is on a strict budget and cannot take you out, you can tell he’s in love when he starts cracking jokes and telling funny stories. That is another form of bonding for Sagittarius. They talk, and talk, and talk.
They can also be insensitive. But Sagittarius can be as witty as any Gemini. Sagittarian wit usually comes out of their mouths unplanned, while they crack jokes on the spot. Their jokes are usually laced with sarcastic wisdom.
The Sagittarius lover’s passion and idealism in love can make them ignore your feelings. They can become so convinced that their love is so perfect and so grand, that they fail to see any problems in your relationship. For this reason, they do best with people who have Venus in the fire signs. Fire signs don’t have a problem with that line of thinking. Venus in the air signs may also work. However, Venus in earth or water signs will have big problems with a Sagittarius lover. Venus in Sagittarius will not bond on a water level, nor remain constant enough for earthy people. Earth and water Venuses might feel unloved by Sagittarius.
Once in a committed relationship, Sagittarius strives to be honest in love. They understand completely that commitment means they are tied down indefinitely. This causes them headaches, because their natures don’t enjoy being tied down. But if they find you worthy, they can remain tied down and faithful to you simply because of principle. In this way, they differ greatly from Gemini. But while they remain in the relationship, they will extend their leash as far out as it will stretch. They will insist upon having their own time to do their own thing. In this way, Sagittarius lovers promote a healthy kind of relationship. They don’t only insist upon their own freedom, but they encourage you to freely explore your own talents and do your own thing, as well. They believe everyone should be free to explore. Sagittarius explores not just the physical world, but also the world of thought. They love to explore new ideas and philosophies. Your Sagittarius lover loves to learn, and will encourage you in any scholarly endeavors. Sagittarius is a very understanding lover.
Venus in Sagittarius has a special bond with lady luck. These lovers are so lucky, they’re the only ones who can survive the crazy stunts they pull off (sky-diving, bungee-jumping, base-jumping, speed-racing, etc.).
As you have probably discovered, Venus in Sagittarius has sex on the first date. They are ready for it anywhere, preferably outdoors. For this reason, they always carry a picnic blanket.
The lady with Venus in Sagittarius is attractive in a tomboyish way, combining a sexy “wild-girl” look, and a sporty “I don’t care how I look” look. Sagittarius is, after all, the tomboy sign. The more “girly” Sagittarian ladies have a “hippie” appearance, with long hair which they prefer to keep natural. She is almost always in shape and athletic. She is philosophical, smart, and understanding, but will blow up for two minutes when she gets upset. After two minutes, she’ll be understanding again. She is unpredictable, fun, and always cool.
Men with Venus in Sagittarius are sexually attracted to care-free, wild, uncomplicated types. They do not want a high-maintenance, prissy lover. They prefer athletic, thin bodies instead of busty, full figures. You can skip breast-augmentation if you’re dating this guy. However, you may want to look into liposuction. Sagittarius men don’t mind if your hair is not done; they actually prefer it a little wild. They like a partner who knows how to throw caution to the wind and have fun. Sagittarius men have high sexual stamina, and they are attracted to partners who can match this.
Some notable people with Venus in Sagittarius are Christina Aguilera, Alyssa Milano, Kim Basinger, Jimi Hendrix, Jay Z, and Winston Churchill.
How to Love Venus in Sagittarius
For your Sagitarius lover to feel loved, believe it or not, they need to feel a philosophical harmony with you. Because of their high level of idealism, they have to know that you have similar ideas or goals in your head. This can range from sharing the same religion, to supporting the same causes, being on the same political party, studying the same subjects in college, or having the same career goals. There must be one of those connections for Sagittarius to feel loved in a close relationship. Notice that none of those mentioned “close emotional bonding,” or “understand their feelings,” or “buy them lots of gifts.”
Don’t smother your Sagittarius lover with your declarations of deep feelings, because they don’t consider that as important. If you want to win them over, it’s more important for you to be fun and carefree. It’s also important for you to not be so sensitive. These are rough folks who can speak the truth very bluntly. You must be prepared to brush off some of the insensitive things they may say. If you don’t brush it off, they will be confused because they never meant any harm. “The truth is the truth,” they always say.
They do value honesty, so you should be honest all the time. They value knowledge, so you should appear smart by saying smart things. It helps if you read a lot. However, you must be willing to drop your books and jump on the back of their motorcycle at the drop of a hat. If you cannot be ready for fun on a moment’s notice, they will not stick around for you. This can get exhausting, so you must eat healthy and stay in shape.
Laugh at their jokes, since joking is one of their main ways of expressing love. Laugh with them, at them, and joke back. Sagittarius is a clown at heart, and what’s a clown without someone to entertain? They, more than most people, really appreciate when you laugh at their jokes (they are also the kind of people who laugh at their own jokes).
Remember to give your Sagittarius lover plenty of freedom to roam and explore. This will not make them stray from the relationship; rather, it will make them feel more comfortable with you. Without the freedom to explore, they will feel like they’re dying and may run away looking for air.
For dates, take them outdoors. They can feel intimate on nature hikes, bike-rides, canoe rides, and stuff like that. Just as enjoyable for them are places that offer mental exploration, such as museums, libraries, or book stores. They can also really get into a good movie, and they’ll discuss it with you for hours afterward.
If you have the sexual stamina of a horse and can quote Socrates while jumping out of a plane, then you’re a perfect match for this most interesting lover of the zodiac.
Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.