Awkward self-love adjustments
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Venus quincunx Sun transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t jump into new relationships or romantic commitments – your feelings might be confusing or unclear right now.
- Avoid making big decisions about your self-worth or appearance; you may be more sensitive to criticism or uncertainty.
- Try not to spend impulsively on luxury items, beauty products, or things to “treat yourself” – you might regret it later.
- Don’t force yourself to please everyone or say yes to favors just to keep the peace; it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs.
- Stay away from confrontations in love or friendships, especially over little things – misunderstandings are common now.
- If you’re feeling unattractive or insecure, don’t take it out on yourself; this vibe will pass soon.
- Don’t ignore your gut if something feels “off” in social situations – trust your instincts, even if you can’t explain them.
- Avoid trying to “fix” other people’s moods or problems, especially if it means sacrificing your own comfort.
Do During This Transit
- Reflect on your relationships and see if anything feels a little “off” or imbalanced- it’s a good time to adjust how much you’re giving or getting.
- Take a step back from drama or tension in love or friendships; give yourself space to think things through.
- Try something new with your style or appearance, even if it feels a little “out there”- experimenting can help you discover what really feels like you.
- Work on self-acceptance. If you catch yourself being extra self-critical, remind yourself nobody’s perfect.
- Focus on compromise, even if it feels awkward or inconvenient. Meet others halfway without losing your own voice.
- Spend some time doing creative activities like art, music, or journaling- it’s an ideal time to express mixed emotions.
- Practice self-care and treat yourself, especially if you’ve been neglecting your own needs lately.
- Be open to feedback from others, but don’t take things too personally if people seem a little insensitive.
- Avoid making huge decisions about love or money until the transit passes- wait until you’re feeling clearer and more settled.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- In some old texts from medieval astrology, a Venus quincunx Sun was seen as a “hidden crack in the mirror”- meaning, beauty or pleasure doesn’t align with self-image, leading to small but persistent vexations.
- The 15th-century Arabic astrologer Abu Ma’shar wrote that this aspect can cause “pleasures come cloaked,” referring to joys or gifts that are awkward, unexpected, or even a little embarrassing.
- Some Renaissance sources say this aspect is like “a banquet served alone,” suggesting the person gets the good things but can’t truly enjoy them or share them as they want.
- In ancient Persian astrology, this transit was a sign of “missed embraces”- longing for harmony or affection, but finding it just out of reach or needing compromise.
- In some 18th century almanacs, it was described as the “sulking Venus”: an odd funk where you want to be liked but feel off, or your attempts to charm somehow get misunderstood.
- Traditional Indian Jyotish texts mention a kind of “strangeness in taste”- where what you find attractive or valuable temporarily shifts and even puzzles those around you, including yourself.
Experiencing This Transit
When Venus is quincunx (also called inconjunct) your natal Sun, you might feel a little out of sync- especially when it comes to what you want (Venus) and who you are at your core (the Sun). It isn’t a big dramatic transit, but it’s one of those times where you can’t quite put your finger on why you feel “off.” You could be craving affection or approval, only to feel that it’s just not clicking, or you want to enjoy yourself but something internal holds you back.
This transit might last just a few days, but it’s enough to bring your attention to things that don’t quite match up in your relationships, self-esteem, or even in simple pleasures. Sometimes it’s small stuff, like feeling underdressed at an event, or wanting to be flirty but stumbling over your words. You might also notice you’re drawn to stuff (people, clothes, food, music) that surprises you- almost like your tastes have shifted overnight.
Challenges during this transit
- Awkward Social Moments: You might try to be charming and it just comes across weird. Like making a joke that nobody laughs at.
- Unclear Self-Worth: Old insecurities can pop up. Maybe you suddenly feel unattractive, or you doubt your value to someone important to you.
- Strange Attractions: You’re pulled toward people or things that don’t make sense for you, which can feel confusing or lead to regrettable decisions.
- Mismatched Wants and Needs: What you want and what you should do just don’t line up for a bit, so you may feel restless or dissatisfied.
- Guilt Over Pleasure: You get something nice (time, gifts, attention) but don’t feel you “earned” it, or you can’t fully enjoy it.
Opportunities during this transit
- Re-evaluating Your Desires: Since you notice what’s not matching up, you can get clearer about what you really want in love, friendships, or creative life.
- Trying Something Different: Those odd new tastes? They can actually open doors- try the art class, listen to the music, wear the colors you normally wouldn’t.
- Improved Self-Awareness: You get to see where old habits about pleasing others or doubting yourself come up, and maybe decide you don’t need to keep those habits going.
- Honest Conversations: Because things feel a bit “off,” you might finally bring up that weird thing with a friend or partner. Awkward, but it can help clear the air.
- Learning to Laugh at Yourself: Sometimes your missteps are actually endearing or funny, and it’s a good time to practice not taking yourself too seriously.
How the Sign of Transiting Venus Modifies This Transit Quincunx to Natal Sun
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Venus.
- Transiting Venus in Aries: You might feel extra restless in your relationships, and sudden urges for independence could make it even harder to find harmony with others.
- Transiting Venus in Taurus: Comfort and stability may become big distractions or sore spots, making you cranky if your needs aren’t being met in just the way you want.
- Transiting Venus in Gemini: Small misunderstandings in communication with loved ones could pop up. You might struggle to balance what you say and what you actually feel inside.
- Transiting Venus in Cancer: Emotional sensitivities get turned up, and family or home-related issues might add another layer of awkwardness to your self-expression.
- Transiting Venus in Leo: Wanting attention could clash with other priorities, so you might feel extra self-conscious or frustrated if you’re not getting enough love or validation.
- Transiting Venus in Virgo: Being nitpicky about yourself or others can make this transit feel more tense, and the urge to “fix” things might cause misunderstandings in love or friendships.
- Transiting Venus in Libra: You’ll really want balance and harmony, but finding that sweet spot might feel harder than usual, and indecision could become an extra hurdle.
- Transiting Venus in Scorpio: Intense feelings and jealousies could show up, making it tougher to blend your wants with what others want, especially when it comes to trust and intimacy.
- Transiting Venus in Sagittarius: You may crave freedom and fun, so you could find yourself conflicted between wanting adventure and keeping promises to others.
- Transiting Venus in Capricorn: Seriousness or a focus on practical stuff in your relationships can highlight where you’re not feeling valued, and responsibilities might feel extra heavy.
- Transiting Venus in Aquarius: Unusual attractions or a desire to rebel against norms might shake things up, leaving you unsure about how much to show your true self.
- Transiting Venus in Pisces: Emotions get foggy and boundaries blur, making you extra sensitive yet possibly out of sync with what you really want or need from others.