Mixed signals in love and conversations
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Venus square Mercury transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t start big conversations about relationships or money- you might say something you regret or just not get your point across.
- Avoid making snap judgments about people, especially if you’re already feeling annoyed or misunderstood.
- Try not to gossip or get caught up in drama; misunderstandings can blow up extra easily right now.
- Hold off on signing contracts or making big purchases unless you’ve triple-checked the details- wires can get crossed.
- Don’t overpromise or agree to things just to please others- you might feel stretched too thin later.
- Skip sending emotional texts or emails when you’re upset; feelings can get lost in translation.
- Avoid talking just to fill the silence, especially if you don’t actually mean what you’re saying.
- Don’t ignore your own boundaries just to keep the peace; it could backfire.
- Try not to get too hung up on approval from others- Venus-Mercury squares can make you crave validation a bit too much.
- Avoid planning any really important meetings or negotiations if you have a choice; wait for a better vibe!
Do During This Transit
- Catch up with friends and people you haven’t talked to in a while- social chats feel more lively now.
- Write or journal about your feelings, especially around love, beauty, or anything artsy.
- Try a creative writing project, like poetry or song lyrics- you might find some inspiration in the drama!
- Express your feelings honestly, but think twice before sending blunt texts or emails (maybe draft them first).
- Listen to music or watch movies that tug at your heartstrings- you’ll appreciate the words and emotions.
- Talk things out if you’ve got tension with someone- communication may be tricky, but things can clear up if you’re patient.
- Try out new ways of saying what you feel- maybe doodle, paint, or share a playlist with someone.
- Give yourself space to daydream and brainstorm new ideas, even if not all of them are practical right now.
- Mix up your usual communication routine, like sending handwritten notes or making a phone call instead of texting.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- In a few old texts, Venus square Mercury was called “the transit of the bickering tongue.” Some astrologers claimed it might make you prone to gossip or get caught up in unnecessary arguments, often without any real motive- almost as if you can’t help yourself.
- Some ancient sources, especially from the medieval period, said this transit can make a person’s words “sweet but slippery”- so people might flatter, charm, or say what others want to hear while actually feeling very different inside. There could be a disconnect between honest feelings and actual communication.
- Venus square Mercury was rumored to bring about an “urge for rhyme,” making even those who typically don’t care about poetry, music, or wordplay want to experiment with it. Some old astrologers noticed their clients would start making puns, humming, or even rhyming their speech unintentionally.
- One particularly quirky interpretation from the Renaissance era advised people to avoid buying clothes, jewelry, or art during this transit, because Venus’s desire for beauty could overrule Mercury’s logic, making buyers regret their purchases later.
- In Hellenistic astrology, some teachers warned about “misdelivered messages” or misunderstandings in love letters, especially if they were written by hand. Letters might literally get lost or misinterpreted.
- Some old German astrology writings suggested that under this transit, you might dream in another language or find yourself mixing up languages if you’re bilingual.
Experiencing This Transit
When Venus forms a square with your natal Mercury, it’s like your desire to relate with others (Venus) is sort of bumping heads with your way of thinking or communicating (Mercury). This energy isn’t always comfortable, but it can push you to really notice how you speak, write, flirt, or negotiate. Here’s what it might actually feel like:
Challenges during this transit
- Mixed Signals: You might send a text, say something sweet, or try to compliment someone, but it lands totally wrong. It’s easy for what you mean and what they hear to be totally different things.
- Overthinking Social Stuff: You could obsess about a goofy comment you made in passing, or rethink your emails and messages way too much. Venus wants harmony, Mercury picks things apart, and it’s like your brain just can’t let it go.
- Too Much Flattery: There’s a risk of saying things just to please people, but you might regret it later or feel fake. Or worse, someone might call you out for being insincere.
- Impulse Purchases: Venus loves pretty things, Mercury gets logical, but right now logic can fly out the window. You may talk yourself into buying stuff you don’t need- clothes, gadgets, tickets to random events- then wonder why you did it later.
- Avoidance of Tough Talk: If there’s something you need to say that’s awkward or not-so-pleasant, you could keep dodging it, wanting everyone to just get along, but that only makes misunderstandings worse in the long run.
Opportunities during this transit
- Creative Expression: This is actually a great time for writing poetry, song lyrics, starting a journal, or expressing yourself in a beautiful way. Your inner word-artist wakes up.
- Charming Negotiations: You might notice you have an extra spark of charm. If you have to ask a favor, set up a date, or negotiate something small, you can sweet-talk your way into a better deal (just don’t overdo it).
- Learning about Yourself: Miscommunications can shine a light on patterns you didn’t notice before. Maybe you realize you say yes when you mean no, or you pick partners who don’t really get you. It’s a chance to get honest with yourself.
- Social Connections: Awkward as it can be, sometimes this transit brings unexpected laughter or light-hearted, silly moments with friends- stuff you’ll joke about later. Even embarrassing conversations can turn into good memories.
- Trying Something New: Venus and Mercury together make you want to experiment- maybe with fashion, art, or food you’ve never tried. Just go easy on the credit card!
How the Sign of Transiting Venus Modifies This Transit Square to Natal Mercury
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Venus.
- Transiting Venus in Aries: Conversations can get fiery or impulsive. You might blurt things out or feel an urge to say what’s on your mind without holding back.
- Transiting Venus in Taurus: There’s a stubborn streak to your chats, and you may resist changing your opinions, even in the face of logic. Comfort and security color your communication style.
- Transiting Venus in Gemini: It’s extra easy to get distracted or scattered. You might talk a lot but not say much, or struggle to keep your facts straight in social situations.
- Transiting Venus in Cancer: Emotions bleed into your words, making you extra sensitive to criticism or misread signals. You may take things to heart more than usual.
- Transiting Venus in Leo: You want your opinions to shine. There’s a flair for drama in your talks and maybe a tendency to take things personally if you’re not feeling appreciated.
- Transiting Venus in Virgo: You nitpick your own words and others’. Misunderstandings come from over-analyzing little details, or worrying about being perfect when you speak.
- Transiting Venus in Libra: There’s a need to smooth things over, sometimes at the expense of honesty. You might avoid tough talks just to keep the peace, leading to mixed signals.
- Transiting Venus in Scorpio: You sense hidden motives in what people say. Intense topics and sharp remarks might pop up, and secrets could slip out by accident.
- Transiting Venus in Sagittarius: You may speak bluntly or have big ideas, but miss details. There’s a restless urge to say what you believe, even if it stirs up controversy.
- Transiting Venus in Capricorn: Straightforward, maybe a little cold- business-like talk becomes the norm. It’s easier to be practical, but tough to show warmth or let your guard down.
- Transiting Venus in Aquarius: Quirky ideas and unusual conversation topics pop up. You might feel out of sync with friends or find it hard to connect on a personal level.
- Transiting Venus in Pisces: Things get foggy. Daydreams or wishful thinking color your chats, and it’s easy to misread or be misunderstood because you’re not grounded in reality.