Mixed Signals in Love and Communication
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Venus quincunx Mercury transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t jump into important conversations- your words might get misunderstood.
- Avoid signing contracts or making big agreements; the details could get missed.
- Don’t gossip or talk behind people’s backs; it could backfire quickly.
- Stay away from mixing business with pleasure- keep emotions and facts separate for now.
- Don’t make assumptions about what others are feeling or thinking; things aren’t as clear as they seem.
- Avoid starting new creative projects that need strong teamwork- you might not see eye-to-eye right now.
- Don’t fire off impulsive texts or emails; double-check your tone and words first.
- Try not to dwell on past arguments or misunderstandings- let them be for now.
- Avoid overanalyzing romantic or social messages; you could read too much into things.
- Don’t expect people to just “get” where you’re coming from- explain yourself clearly or wait till later.
Do During This Transit
- Try out creative writing or journaling- let your thoughts flow without judging yourself.
- Listen closely during conversations, since misunderstandings can pop up. Ask questions if you need clarity.
- Spend time with friends or loved ones- focus on connecting through honest, light conversation.
- Work through any confusing feelings about love or friendship, maybe by talking to someone you trust.
- Experiment with expressing yourself in art- draw, paint, or make music, even if you’re not “good at it.”
- Edit emails, posts, or letters before sending, since you might mix up what you mean to say.
- Reflect on your values versus what you say- make sure your words match your true feelings.
- Be open to changing your mind about something if you get new info.
- Practice patience with yourself and others when it feels like you just can’t get your point across.
- Try to see things from someone else’s point of view- it’s a great time to strengthen empathy.
What’s interesting about this transit?
Venus quincunx (or inconjunct) Mercury doesn’t get as much attention as the big conjunctions or squares, but you can actually find some pretty cool and obscure takes on this aspect in older astrology texts if you dig deep. Here’s a little taste of what the ancients and early modern astrologers said about it:
- In some Renaissance-era notes, this aspect was called “the aspect of lost letters.” Astrologers said misunderstandings might happen in writing- letters go missing, words get misdelivered, or even poems and messages are misread.
- One Arabic astrologer, Al-Biruni, mentioned that Venus and Mercury in this relationship could point to “a mind drawn toward beautification,” but also “befuddlement in bargaining”- meaning tricky negotiations where neither side understands the other.
- There’s a mention in William Lilly’s texts that this aspect might show up in the chart of someone who “seeks pleasure in uncommon knowledge or rumors,” but who risks spreading accidental gossip or confusion.
- Medieval texts sometimes called this a “dissonant harmony,” suggesting you might have clever but indirect ways of expressing affection, though it could come out sideways or get misunderstood.
- A few old Italian astrologers claimed this aspect makes for “unexpected poetry”- beautiful words come at odd moments, but if you try to force them, they vanish.
And on a fun note, I found a 19th-century reference that says under this transit, dream interpretation gets oddly tricky- Venus wants romance in the dreams, Mercury tries to analyze everything, and the meaning just slips through your fingers!
Experiencing This Transit
So when transiting Venus forms a quincunx (that’s 150 degrees- kind of an awkward angle of adjustment) to your natal Mercury, things just don’t quite line up the way you might like. Venus is all about sweetness, attraction, pleasure, and charm, while Mercury rules your thoughts, communication, and daily routines. With this transit, they aren’t exactly fighting, but they sure aren’t in sync either. You might feel like you’re saying something nice but it lands wrong, or you want to have a deep conversation but end up talking about the weather.
Challenges during this transit
- Weird Conversations: You might catch yourself saying things you don’t actually mean, or someone might misunderstand your intentions. A simple compliment could come off as sarcasm without you meaning to.
- Hard to Say What You Feel: You know what you want to express, but it doesn’t quite match up with the words coming out. Maybe you text someone something sweet, and they totally misinterpret it.
- Scatterbrained Shopping: Watch out for impulse buys- especially stuff that looks cute or trendy. Venus wants to spend, and Mercury is distracted, so you might regret a quirky purchase later.
- Gossip Traps: You might accidentally spill someone’s secret, or get tangled up in other people’s drama even if that’s not your style.
- Awkward Apologies: Trying to smooth over a misunderstanding? Somehow your “I’m sorry” just leads to more confusion, or the person thinks you’re joking.
Opportunities during this transit
- Creative Breakthroughs: If you write, draw, or play music just for fun, you might come up with something totally out of the box. Venus brings the inspiration, and Mercury’s odd angle helps you see things differently.
- Unusual Connections: This is a good time to reach out to someone outside your usual friend group. Because things are a bit offbeat, you might click with people you’d never expect.
- New Tastes: You might find yourself getting into strange foods, trying a weird new hairstyle, or falling in love with a quirky hobby just for kicks.
- Learning from Mistakes: Those misunderstandings? They can actually help you figure out better ways to express what you really mean. You get to notice where communication breaks down, and do something about it!
- Seeing Beauty in Odd Places: Venus helps you find what’s cool or lovable about things- or people!- you usually wouldn’t notice. Keep your eyes peeled for unexpected charm in everyday life.
How the Sign of Transiting Venus Modifies This Transit Quincunx to Natal Mercury
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Venus.
- Transiting Venus in Aries: You might feel pushier in your conversations- wanting quick answers but getting tripped up by impatience or saying things too bluntly.
- Transiting Venus in Taurus: You’re craving comfort and security, but it may feel tough to express what makes you feel safe. Words and desires just aren’t lining up easily.
- Transiting Venus in Gemini: You could be juggling too many ideas at once. Flirtiness or charm might come off as scattered or over the top, making it hard to get your point across.
- Transiting Venus in Cancer: Emotions run high, but talking about them clearly is tricky. You want connection, but worry about being misunderstood or sounding too sensitive.
- Transiting Venus in Leo: You want attention and appreciation, but might go a little overboard or sound dramatic without meaning to. Your words might not match your heart’s flair.
- Transiting Venus in Virgo: Criticism, even if well-meant, can slip out accidentally. You want everything just right, but your words might feel nitpicky or misunderstood.
- Transiting Venus in Libra: It’s all about harmony, but finding the right words to keep things smooth is trickier than usual. You might end up agreeing so much, your real thoughts get lost.
- Transiting Venus in Scorpio: Feelings go deep, but putting them into words feels intense or awkward. You might feel pulled to keep secrets or share too much without realizing it.
- Transiting Venus in Sagittarius: You’re eager to explore and talk big ideas, but others might not be on the same page. It’s easy to exaggerate or be misunderstood as too blunt.
- Transiting Venus in Capricorn: Professional vibes and practicalities might clash with how you want to express yourself. Serious talk could come off too cold or a bit stiff.
- Transiting Venus in Aquarius: You might want to shake things up or sound more unique, but fitting in with group conversations or friendships feels oddly awkward.
- Transiting Venus in Pisces: You’re dreamy and want to talk about feelings or art, but it’s really easy to get lost in vague words or forget to say what you truly mean.