Awkward passion adjustments
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Mars quincunx Venus transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t start a new romantic relationship just because you feel restless- your feelings might be confusing right now.
- Try not to push your partner into anything they’re not ready for; miscommunication can lead to arguments.
- Avoid spending impulsively on things you don’t really need, especially if you’re trying to impress someone.
- Don’t make sudden decisions about money or beauty treatments- you might regret them later.
- Try not to jump to conclusions in your relationships; misunderstandings are more likely now.
- Avoid bringing up old relationship drama, as it might flare up bigger than you expect.
- Don’t let jealousy or insecurity rule your actions- take a breath before reacting.
- Avoid getting into power struggles with loved ones, as compromise is harder to find during this transit.
- Try not to take things personally if you feel rejected or unattractive; it’s probably just temporary vibes.
- Don’t ignore your own needs just to keep the peace- balance is key, even if it feels tricky.
Do During This Transit
- Try new ways to spice up your love life or romantic routine- think surprise dates or little thoughtful gestures.
- Channel restless or awkward energy into creative projects, like painting, dancing, or writing music.
- Set boundaries in relationships if something feels off-balance or uncomfortable.
- Experiment with your appearance or style- try out a fresh look or revamp your wardrobe.
- Work out or do some physical activity to burn off any extra tension or frustration.
- Have open conversations about what you want or need in your relationships, but be gentle and patient about it.
- Reflect on the ways you express affection or desire and see if any adjustments are needed.
- Go easy on yourself- perfection isn’t possible, so don’t stress if things feel “off” or awkward.
- Put energy into something that feels rewarding, even if it’s just a new hobby or quirky project.
What’s interesting about this transit?
Mars quincunx Venus is one of those odd angles that’s always been kind of tricky to pin down, and you’ll find some cool takes from the older astrology books. For example:
- Medieval astrologers sometimes called this the “angled indignation”- they said it brings restlessness in marriage or partnership, but not outright drama. It’s like the feeling of wanting something different but not knowing what that is.
- Some Renaissance writers believed this aspect could cause “misdirected ardor”- intense, sudden attractions that feel off or inconvenient, happening at strange times or toward very different sorts of people.
- Mystics from the Middle Ages saw this quincunx as the “torment of the heart,” claiming it brings a longing or ache that can’t be soothed by physical pleasure or romance- almost a kind of romantic restlessness specific to this angle.
- Some old love horoscopes described it as the “spice of dissatisfaction,” bringing in minor temptations, subtle jealousy, or sudden flashes of annoyance with partners, friends, or even your appearance.
- Persian texts referenced Mars-Venus quincunx as a time when “the lover forgets why he loves”- so there may be strange moods or mixed signals that just don’t make sense emotionally.
Experiencing This Transit
When Mars forms a quincunx to your natal Venus, it feels like your drives (Mars) and your desires (Venus) are sort of out of sync. It’s not an all-out battle, but you might feel a low-key friction- you want connection, but you want space, or you’re craving excitement but can’t quite make it happen in your relationships or in the way you treat yourself.
This transit usually isn’t dramatic on the outside, but inside, it stirs up minor tension. It can make relationships feel a bit “off,” like you’re out of rhythm with someone you care about. People find themselves slightly annoyed for no reason, attracted to people or things they don’t normally like, or even doubting what they value for a few weeks.
Challenges during this transit
- Irritation in relationships: Little things may bug you way more than usual. Maybe your partner’s habits get under your skin, or if you’re single, you might find dating more annoying than exciting.
- Mixed signals: You might give off confusing vibes- flirty one minute, distant the next. It’s this back-and-forth energy that can leave everyone guessing, even you.
- Temptation to act out: Some people feel pulled to flirt a little too much or make impulsive choices they wouldn’t normally consider, like rushing into something physical on a whim and then instantly regretting it.
- Restlessness with style or money: You might hate your favorite shirt all of a sudden, feel bored with your look, or want to splurge on something weird that you’ll never use. Buyer’s regret is a classic here.
- Struggling to enjoy pleasures: The things that usually make you feel good- music, food, romance, art- might fall flat or leave you unsatisfied.
Opportunities during this transit
- Trying new interests: That restless energy can push you to explore hobbies, music, or people outside your comfort zone. Maybe you join a quirky art class or find a new café that becomes a favorite.
- Refreshing your style or environment: You might experiment with your appearance, rearrange your space, or add a little boldness to your routine. Small changes can shake off that “blah” feeling.
- Sparking honest talks in relationships: If you’re already noticing some dissatisfaction, this is a good time to talk it out. Even if it feels weird, being honest can clear the air.
- Learning about your turn-ons and turn-offs: Paying attention to what’s attracting or repelling you right now can give you insight you might not have noticed before. It’s an invitation to get real about what you want.
- Channeling energy into creativity: Since this combo is about tension between action and pleasure, it’s a perfect time to make art, write, or even bake something wild and different.
Basically, Mars quincunx Venus brings a little friction, but it’s not the end of the world. If you ride with it, you can find ways to shake things up that leave you feeling refreshed- just watch out for impulsive choices you might not want in the long run.
How the Sign of Transiting Mars Modifies This Transit Quincunx to Natal Venus
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Mars.
- Transiting Mars in Aries: Impulsive urges might crash into your need for harmony, making you restless and quick to act in love or money matters- sometimes too quick for your own good.
- Transiting Mars in Taurus: You could dig in your heels during conflicts, getting a bit stubborn in relationships or spending. You might want physical comfort but feel oddly out-of-sync with how you’re showing affection.
- Transiting Mars in Gemini: Mixed messages fly. You may act on split-second decisions about love or money, but your words and actions might not line up, sparking misunderstandings.
- Transiting Mars in Cancer: Strong emotions could make you defensive or moody, especially if you feel unappreciated. It’s easy to take things personally and snap over small issues in relationships.
- Transiting Mars in Leo: You want attention and admiration, but how you go about getting it might clash with what actually brings you happiness. Watch out for drama and pride getting in the way of connection.
- Transiting Mars in Virgo: You’ll notice little flaws in your relationships or finances, getting picky or trying to “fix” things that don’t really need it. Overthinking leads to frustration instead of solutions.
- Transiting Mars in Libra: You want to keep the peace but can’t avoid conflict altogether. You might try too hard to please, only to end up resenting it. It’s tough to balance “me” and “we.”
- Transiting Mars in Scorpio: Intensity ramps up, so issues of jealousy or control can pop up. Desires feel strong and complicated, and you may push for answers or deeper connections no matter how uncomfortable it gets.
- Transiting Mars in Sagittarius: Restlessness in love or money matters is strong. You might act on a whim, chase new experiences, or get bored fast, making it tricky to stay content with what you have.
- Transiting Mars in Capricorn: You want results in your relationships or finances, but your efforts might feel out of step with your actual values. Pushing too hard could make things awkward or cold.
- Transiting Mars in Aquarius: You crave freedom and originality, but it’s hard to blend that with traditional love or money habits. You could surprise people with what you do- or want- right now.
- Transiting Mars in Pisces: Motivation gets fuzzy, and you might feel confused by what you want versus what you actually need. Passive-aggressive behavior can sneak in, or you might sacrifice too much without realizing.