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Gemini in Love

Gemini in Love, Venus in Gemini

Updated April 9, 2020
By Corinne Lane     369 Comments

“I Love Variety, Communication, and Networking”

The first secret to know about a Gemini in love is that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Gemini person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Gemini will be a “Gemini in love.” (Venus Sign Calculator)

The Gemini lover is the charmer of the zodiac. They express affection verbally and cleverly, but they only feel it skin-deep. You may be tempted to believe one loves you because of how excited they get when you’re together, but they get just as excited when chasing a butterfly or ordering dinner. It’s hard to tell if one is sincerely interested in you because Venus in Gemini is talkative and friendly with everybody and their mother.

Venus in Gemini is a kid at heart, completely at peace with lying if it suits them. Like children, they are also endlessly curious. They’re into everything. It’s been said that they have “a finger in every pie.”

The Gemini lover’s taste is always changing, and they have a constant need for new stimuli. The only thing that you can be sure of about your Gemini lover is that they will not be faithful in a traditional relationship. Monogamy is absolutely impossible for someone with Venus in Gemini. (If you happen to have Venus in Gemini and are claiming that you have been faithful in a relationship, please comment at the bottom of this article; we’d like to perform some tests on you, because you, dear, must be some sort of mutant.)

To be fair, the Gemini need for variety is not so much sexual as it is a need for mental stimulation. The Gemini lover thrives on new information. Gemini is the networker of the zodiac. They have a need to disseminate information and connect people. This is why they’re driven to talk to everyone, at the lunch counter, around town, on the street, and in bed. And they are good at it, too. They are never at a loss for words, having enviable verbal skills.

They carry themselves uprightly in public, fitting right in to any social crowd. At parties, they are the center of every talk circle. They go home from a party knowing what everyone was talking about, wearing, and eating. And they took it all in within the first half hour of the party. It’s as if Venus in Gemini has a receptor antenna on top of one’s head, receiving all sorts of information. They are totally aware of the people in their environment. Not the feelings of people (like the water signs are) but rather the rational thoughts and ideas of people. Robert Pattinson and Megan Fox both have Venus in Gemini, as did President JFK.

The Gemini lover never really means any harm; these are not fighters like Aries, nor manipulators like Scorpio. They can’t understand why you’re upset that they left you home alone with your boring movie while they went to look for something more fun to do. They are sincerely confused when you get angry at them for forgetting your birthday. They want you to understand that the reason they forgot your birthday is because the lady at the lunch counter had the most interesting story to tell, so your Gemini lover never made it your house that night. They are like easily distracted children. And you always forgive them because they have the most charming smiles and always say the right words. They like to remain friends with all of their past lovers, they cannot bear to end friendships. Friendships mean more to them than romances.

They may like to talk during sex (although Mars in Gemini is more indicative of that). Actually, they may prefer to talk about sex rather than doing it. Unless, of course, it’s a threesome. They cannot turn down a threesome. Males with this placement may seem feminine at times, but this does not mean they are necessarily homosexual. Gemini is considered an asexual sign. They can feel intimately close with both sexes. But intimately close for a Gemini is always only skin-deep. Gemini intimacy is a friendly companionship of a detached nature, like an acquaintance. This is the most emotionally-detached sign of the zodiac.

If they love you, they’ll show it lightly and playfully; no heavy emotional displays or extravagant gifts. Theirs is not a passionate-type of love. There will be no deep bonding; they simply don’t have the time. This charming lover will pile on the flattering comments and witty conversation. They’ll court you by taking you to a movie, and they’ll want to discuss the movie afterward over dinner or coffee. Or they may prefer to skip the movie and jump right into the discussion. They’ll talk to you for hours. They are great conversationalists; they have a fundamental need to communicate everything. In the past, Venus in Gemini courted with charming, folded-paper messages and phone calls. Today, they’ll shower you with witty text messages and emails. They’ll take you to all the happening events, and they don’t mind if you invite extra friends to come along. The more the merrier for Venus in Gemini. At dance clubs, they have just as much fun chatting with the bartender, the DJ, the bouncer, and the bathroom attendant as they do dancing. When they have your head spinning from all the social entanglements and 100-mile-per-hour conversations, then it may be safe to guess that they’re interested in you. Enjoy it while you can because it will not last very long. They’ll move on to another flavor tomorrow. If you want to hang on to them, you must provide constant stimulation.

On the positive side, the male Gemini lover is probably the only male in the zodiac that is not attracted to a person based on their looks. The Gemini lover is romantically attracted to brains. He wants a smart, intellectual lover who knows how to carry on a decent conversation. Sure, half-dressed, sexy women with cleavage may distract him for a moment, but he will not be romantically satisfied with such women. When it comes to physical appearance, Venus in Gemini is more attracted to a skinny, athletic-type than a rounded, full-figure woman. But regardless of looks, intelligence and quick wit is what turns them on.  Peppy, perky, outgoing and/or tomboyish types also turn them on.

How to Love Venus in Gemini

To make your Gemini lover feel loved, be a listener. They need immediate sounding boards for all of their thoughts. If you do this for them, they will feel very close to you. But you must also be talkative, or else they will get bored and leave you. Provide mental stimulation by asking them lots of questions about any subject.

The ultimate turn-on for Venus in Gemini is witty banter.

Be peppy and outgoing. They need variety, so be interesting. If you have a split personality, even better. To keep a Gemini happy you must allow them freedom to come and go as they please. If you try to cage them in at all, they will disappear. Never mention “commitment” or “marriage” because they will disappear. Don’t be boring, wanting to stay home all the time, because they will leave you. If you’re detecting a pattern here, pat yourself on the back. The Gemini lover is never a permanent lover; they will leave you. Gemini is the first air sign and, like air, comes and goes as it pleases. It’s not that they don’t love you. It’s simply that their need for variety and constant new stimuli inhibits their chances for a lasting relationship or for intimate bonding. If you provide enough freedom, mental stimulation, and forgiveness, your Gemini lover will always return to you after flying off for a bit. You must ask yourself if your nerves can handle that.

Note: Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will greatly alter your love style. Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life.

Read more about Venus in Gemini. Read about the Air Sign Love Language since Gemini is an air sign. Be sure to try the free compatibility report.

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  1. Dr. Robert Carter on said:

    2/14/2020 valentine day. I was a 4x scorpio (sun/moon/mercury/asc.) engaged to a cancer with venus in gemini. she wrote romantic love letters 4-5x weekly while I was overseas. all she talked about was the clothes she was buying and modelling for her dorm mates and our wedding plans next year.. that went on for 6 months with 6 months till our wedding. she met a guy who reminded her of me and the first part of January she writes, “come home, I can’t wait for june to see you.” I took emergency leave, flew over the artic circle 6,000 miles arriving january 28 and was met with my engagement ring stuck through a 5″ crack in the dorm door and a 5 minute request to be set free – she was too young to marry. no excuse, no tears, no remorse, no emotion – not even, an “I’m sorry.” BUT she agreed to see me the next night. we went to a movie: “they’re singing love songs but not for me” with Clark Gable. she allowed me to kiss her all through it and returned my kisses never once discouraging me. the next day, winter break, we boarded a bus for Houston and we kissed for 200 miles during which she said, “I’m almost persuaded to take you back.” when we arrived she asked me to go contact my family to pick me up, and TO LEAVE HER THERE before her family arrived. 12 days later as I flew back overseas as Houston experienced a 5+ inch record snowfall one of only 4 in 150 years.. it was as if all of nature greaved with me. six months later I spent 4 months in a mental hospital and was discharged. I didn’t see her for 2 years at graduation, she said she didn’t want to get anything started.. I still can’t understand how anyone could become so cold, so indifferent or so insinsitive to some one they supposedly loved. that was 60 years ago last month. Even so I still am grateful and thankful to have loved her, she was and still is the love of my lifetime.

    • Oh that is horrendous and I am so sorry for the pain you endured. Often times people don’t understand the effect they leave on others and are not in tuned with themselves to understand the depth of true love. You loved as best you could, and the universe saved you from a lifetime of unstable love.

  2. I have a Venus in Gemini and I have always been faithful to my partners. I have never cheated. I will say that it might be because I don’t want to have to deal with the emotional shit-storm after, which seems like it would be inevitable. I just choose to leave instead.

  3. kyra c on said:

    i am apparently a venus in gemini but i am agoraphobic, i dont like socializing and i do not like going to concerts, clubs, anything loud or crowded, if need be i can and will have a conversation with anybody and have been confided in by everyone… bus drivers, doctors, my parents, other people’s parents, gas station cashiers, teachers, you name it, since a very young age. not to mention that i’m a loner, prefer to be alone, and haven’t had a friend in years, have no desire for any of my ex boyfriends to be in my life because no matter how long it’s been, it hurts too bad. my ex broke up with me because i wanted to stay in and watch movies and work on our own little projects, in our own little worlds but together. and he was an aries, no mental stimulation and took a year for him to start communicating with me. he wa a jealous and possessive and in an attempt to instill some sort of trust and security from him (i never was unfaithful, gave him full access to all my devices snd my location) i dropped the few long distance friends i kept in touch with over social mediia. and also? i feel so intensely it physically hurts me, i.m fairly certain at this point that i’m an empath, so all of this (other than the 100 mile rate of thought and speech) is very confusing to me. and i had one threesome and abhorred it, it was painful to watch my SO with another woman and worrier that he may want to make it a regular thing. i guess i will continue to learn and understand all aspects of astrology and hope i come across something to help me better understand. i felt sick reading emotionally detached because i am so emotional, feel so intensely and deeply that it makes me ill, temporarily paralyzes me at times, and has greatly affected my life and my health. i am so worried

    • Gillian King on said:

      Oh wow- almost all of this, me too! Only real difference is that my experiences have made me a hermit, during which I have intensely analyzed myself, and life, the universe, everything, patterns and cycles etc. And now, I am hopefully a better person for it, but I have emotionally shut down in an act of self- preservation – I feel I know people – and myself too well to allow myself to ever be so vulnerable again! And while that’s lonely, I don’t notice it too much, as I am so interested in so many things, that I barely notice time passing! I guess I’m just living my life my way, and that’s ok!

  4. Im a faithful Gemini lover. Almost 3 years in and not planning to cheat or leave him. Havent cheated on any of the previous bfs either. But i guess stars came together(!) to make it possible: im a taurus Sun and ascendant, virgo moon; meanwhile i also need constant mental situmilation and my boyfriend is inteligent and interesting enough to get me into endless debates over the smallest of things.

  5. Chantie on said:

    My Venus is in Gemini and I disagree about being unfaithful. I’m very faithful. My Sun is in Taurus, so maybe that has something to do with that?

  6. My Venus is in Gemini and I can say the part about not committing to one person is completely not true. I have never cheated on any of my partners but have actually been cheated on by others. Loyalty is a huge deal for me.

  7. Bridgette on said:

    I have never ever cheated physically at least. Before my long term boyfriend, I would never stay with one guy for too long but now that I am in a long term relationship, I find my mind wandering too much

  8. Lesley on said:

    I too have Venus in Gemini and I am a faithful companion (maybe because my sun is in Leo) and was with my ex-husband for 17 years and we are still friends. I have never been cheated on (thank goodness) and fidelity is EVERYTHING to me!!

  9. I’m a Venus in Gemini n I’ve been a faithful lover I spent 16yrs with someone n Im into total monogamy so no sharing or threesomes those parts of it are false for me.

  10. I have Venus in Gemini and this made me laugh out loud. I have been married three times and have never been faithful to any of them. I am such an Ass.

  11. So I am a taurus sun, scorpio moon and gemini venus. So I can most definitely be faithful if I find someone worth putting in any time and effort. I have had my play around moments in my life ans loved it but yes i am able to be faithful lol.

  12. Hello I think I’m a mutant. I am Venus Gemini.
    To be honest, I find it difficult to cheat, id rather just leave. But the cancer sun part of me, will make sure you are ok and feed and all then hit the door.

  13. Well, I slightly see some of these characteristics in me, but mostly not. I feel like this is mostly not me in a relationship at all. I like mental stimulation, but I am devotedly loyal in my relationships, always.

  14. In my younger years maybe … but I love monogamy … been married for 17 years with not even a turn of the head to glance sideways ☺️

  15. Thank you for this article asi agreed with it all. I’m a venus gemini with a cancer sun, I struggle a lot in relationships as one minute Im all in and the next I’m bored and what to try something different, my cancer side doesn’t want to hurt anyone or abandon them but my gemini venus wants something new and fresh, so I’m often trapped. For me I don’t see anything wrong with an open relationship but the types I attract seem to be traditional relationship types.

  16. Charlie Norfolk on said:

    I have Venus in Gemini. Have fallen deeply in love only twice – I am now in my 50’s – but I was 100% faithful to both because there was no one who even came onto my radar when I was with them. I was not faithful to my other lovers – but I did not love them in the deep and long lasting way I did with the two nig loves. It took me a long time to get over them.

  17. hi, my ex boyfriend was venus in gemini. the start of our relationship was tricky, he was very promiscious, but after 5 months we were together. however he did used to hit and abuse me mentally as well as physically and was extrememly angry all the time. He was faithful in the romantic sense but did often choose others for brain stimulation.

    10/10 would not reccomend

    • oh and we dated for 2.5 years and i broke up with him. due to the abuse and he was really upset and begged for me back and claimed to be in love and had a new girlfriend a month later who looks like me and theyve been dating now for almost a year x

  18. Sreedhanya on said:

    My Venus is in gemini but it is in 8th house also taurus is there on the cusp of 8th house and therefore I am not into threesomes and commitment has never been an issue for me. I AM LUNAR VIRGO TOO. However I love words .

  19. Like what kind of mutant yes I have been faithful in all of my committed relationships.

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