Tough Love Lessons
Here’s what to do and not do when you have a Venus square Saturn transit. Below that are some interesting things about this transit.
Avoid During This Transit
- Don’t start new romantic relationships- you might feel extra guarded or not your usual self with others.
- Avoid big fights or heavy talks with your partner; tension is higher and things can get blown out of proportion.
- Don’t make huge financial investments or big purchases; you might be feeling pessimistic or doubtful, which can lead to bad decisions.
- Try not to seek validation or approval from authority figures- you’ll probably feel more insecure than usual, and it’s easy to take things too personally.
- Don’t plan major beauty changes (like a drastic haircut or makeover); you could be too critical of yourself right now.
- Stay away from comparing yourself to others, especially about relationships or material stuff- it’s easy to be way too hard on yourself.
- Don’t isolate yourself completely, even if you feel lonely or misunderstood; some alone time is good, but don’t shut people out.
- Avoid dwelling on past relationship failures or regrets- this transit can bring those feelings to the surface, but it’s not a good time to judge yourself harshly.
Do During This Transit
- Reflect on your relationships and see where you might need to set healthier boundaries.
- Work on self-care, especially if you’re feeling a little down or insecure about love or money.
- Focus on important responsibilities, even if you’re not in the mood- taking care of business will make things easier later.
- Have honest, respectful conversations with people close to you. It might be awkward, but it’ll clear the air.
- Be practical with your finances- it’s a good time to look closely at your budget or start saving for something long-term.
- Give yourself permission to say “no” if you need some personal space- it’s healthy to take a step back if you feel overwhelmed.
- Spend time by yourself if you need to recharge. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary sometimes.
- If love feels hard right now, it’s temporary. Use this time to understand what you really want in relationships.
- Practice patience- with yourself and with others. Things might move slower than you’d like, but that’s okay.
- Channel your emotions into something creative- art, music, writing, or anything that helps you express what you’re feeling.
What’s interesting about this transit?
- Some old texts say that Venus square Saturn can make a person “fearful of the pleasures of the table,” meaning you might suddenly lose interest in food and drink, or even feel guilty about indulging. Strange, right?
- There’s an old belief that during this transit, dreams relating to lost loves or unrequited affection might pop up more often, especially on rainy nights.
- Ancient astrologers sometimes said this aspect “cools the spirit of song,” so you might find yourself less interested in listening to music, singing, or enjoying art in general.
- According to medieval sources, this transit was thought to bring trouble with small valuables- like, you misplace a ring or a favorite keepsake, or jewelry breaks unexpectedly.
- Some even claimed this aspect could cause “awkwardness in public manners,” so you might feel self-conscious or like you’re out of sync in social situations, even if you’re usually confident.
- There’s also the notion that Venus square Saturn can “delay the arrival of sweet letters,” meaning you might not get the news or affection you’re waiting for from someone, like a late text message or unanswered email.
Experiencing This Transit
When Venus moves into a square aspect with your natal Saturn, things can feel a little extra heavy- especially around relationships, love, money, and even self-esteem. This transit has a way of shining a big bright spotlight on what’s missing or not working in these parts of life. You might catch yourself questioning the state of your heart or second-guessing your connections with others. Patience is a must, because it can feel like the things you want most- closeness, reassurance, or harmony- are just out of reach.
Challenges during this transit
- Feeling lonely, misunderstood, or left out, especially in relationships or social groups. You might even pull away from others, fearing they don’t really care about you.
- Doubting yourself a lot more than usual- maybe questioning your looks, your worth, or thinking you’re “not enough” in some way.
- Trouble or delays with money. For example, you might not get paid on time or feel stressed about a bill you forgot.
- Romantic relationships can feel tense or distant, sometimes making you worry about rejection or abandonment.
- Seeing mistakes or imperfections in yourself or others, which can lead to criticism, nitpicking, or just not feeling satisfied.
- Creative inspiration might dry up, so making art, music, or just enjoying beauty could feel extra hard right now.
Opportunities during this transit
- A chance to really look at your relationships and figure out which ones matter, and which ones might not be working for you anymore.
- You can build better boundaries- saying no without the guilt, and protecting your time or energy where it counts.
- Financial slowdowns can push you to get organized, budget, or pay attention to those little expenses that usually sneak by.
- By facing doubts or insecurities, you can actually come out feeling tougher and more self-sufficient. Saturn encourages real, lasting growth, even if it’s not always fun.
- Repairing something that’s broken- whether that’s a friendship you want to save, or your favorite piece of jewelry- can feel extra satisfying and meaningful.
- Creative blocks might push you to find new sources of inspiration, or try something totally different from your usual style.
How the Sign of Transiting Venus Modifies This Transit Square to Natal Saturn
Read the one for the current sign of transiting Venus.
- Transiting Venus in Aries: You might feel more impatient or impulsive about love or spending, which can make Saturn’s walls feel extra frustrating. You may want to break the rules just because you feel restricted.
- Transiting Venus in Taurus: Comfort and security become a bigger deal. Saturn’s limitations might make you crave stability, but also feel denied the simple pleasures you usually enjoy.
- Transiting Venus in Gemini: Communication issues could pop up, making it harder to talk things out or enjoy light-hearted socializing. Misunderstandings can sting more than usual.
- Transiting Venus in Cancer: Emotional protection is super important now. Saturn might make you feel like you aren’t getting the nurturing or support you need from others.
- Transiting Venus in Leo: You could feel underappreciated, or like your efforts to have fun and express yourself are falling flat. Saturn’s seriousness dampens your playful streak.
- Transiting Venus in Virgo: You might get extra picky or critical about relationships, or stress over money. Saturn increases worries about whether you or others are “enough.”
- Transiting Venus in Libra: Finding balance feels tougher, and you may notice more pressure or unfairness in partnerships. Saturn can make you feel isolated from those you usually connect with.
- Transiting Venus in Scorpio: Intense feelings about trust and control come up. Saturn stirs up fears around betrayal or loss, making intimacy seem riskier or more serious.
- Transiting Venus in Sagittarius: Your need for freedom clashes with Saturn’s rules. This can make you extra restless, or you might feel trapped in situations that used to feel exciting.
- Transiting Venus in Capricorn: Saturn feels right at home here, so you might double down on responsibility, but also feel lonely or emotionally distant. Relationships can feel more like “work” than ever.
- Transiting Venus in Aquarius: You may want space or something different in relationships, but Saturn keeps putting up obstacles. Feeling like an outsider or misunderstood is common.
- Transiting Venus in Pisces: It’s easy to feel let down, like your dreams or romantic ideals hit a wall. Saturn can make empathy and connection seem just out of reach now.