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Aquarius in Love

Aquarius in Love, Venus in Aquarius love style

“I Love Shocking You”

The first secret to know about an Aquarius in love is simply that it does NOT refer to a sun-sign Aquarius person. Only someone with the planet Venus in Aquarius will be an “Aquarius in love.”

The person with Venus in Aquarius in an extremely special, unconventional, and rebellious lover. Venus in air is always a bit detached and impersonal, but here it is not as detached as in Gemini. This lover expresses love freely and flirtatiously and can stick around longer than a Gemini. You’ll know when Aquarius loves you because he sees no point in hiding it. You’ll be highly drawn to him because he excites you, he unsettles you. If you don’t watch yourself, he’ll have you half-naked in his arms where you least expect it, like at a bus-stop. But he’s not simply about the sex, he wants to read to you, study you, talk to you, and really get to know you. He is a bit of a psychologist.

You have probably heard that Venus in Aquarius values freedom in relationships. But freedom is more of a Sagittarian value. To Venus in Aquarius, shock value is more important than freedom. Venus in Aquarius will get into a tight relationship if it offers some shock value, if it upsets the status quo. They are progressive and innovative, above all. It’s not merely about freedom; they need to be extreme!

If you have Venus in Aquarius, you’re not necessarily craving the craziest lover, just the one who’s most different. For example, if your society is full of wild party animal types, then you’ll be attracted to the only homely, shy person. If you were raised a Southern Baptist, the bisexual/foreigner/atheist is the only one for you. You experience love best and most freely when you are going against the grain in your society. You refuse to fit into the mold of what is expected from you in regard to love relationships.

The goal with Venus in Aquarius is to overthrow the norms that inhibit the flow of true love. You have a real chance of experiencing the heights of true love because you simply ignore the boring rules and tread on without inhibitions. You pave the way for the evolution of our love natures. If our world is ever to grow in our definition of love, it will be due to the ideas, experiments, and crazy one-night-stands of Venus in Aquarius. It’s a lucky person who captures Venus in Aquarius; and yes, Venus in Sagittarius is highly compatible with Venus in Aquarius.

You are not Pisces-type martyrs, but you are martyrs in your own way. You sacrifice a “good” reputation for the sake of forcing the world to consider new ways of loving each other. You experiment with partners and relationships. The bad news is that all this scientific experimenting with love can leave you with an impersonal attitude toward your lover, which can interfere with close relationships. You can come across as cold and uncaring.

The Venus in Aquarius woman stands out by dressing differently or wearing her hair differently. She’s never boring. She’s unconventional.

Men with Venus in Aquarius are romantically turned on by unique people, by the strange ones, by the eccentric ones. They don’t mind quirky people; they are attracted to them.

Both Ashton Kutcher and Bruce Willis have Venus in Aquarius, as do Elton John, Paris Hilton, Taylor Swift, Quentin Tarantino, Axl Rose, Chris Rock, and Mitt Romney.

How to Love Venus in Aquarius

To make your Aquarius lover feel loved, you must first remember that they are an air love sign. This means that they are operating neither on the emotional, nor the physical wave. Their love language is abstract, in the mind, and understood rather than felt. Talking about all subjects is more romantic for them than deep emotional promises and hugs. If you have Venus in Water, perhaps you should move on now before you get hurt.

They enjoy discussing things, including fantasies. Try this: get an adult novel and take turns reading it to each other and acting out the scenes. They’ll enjoy it more if it’s outdoors.

They are not content to sit at home with you, just the two of you. In order to experience love, they need to socialize actively with many people. Be prepared for this. Remember, they need to be shocking someone with your relationship. Plan for this.

They are geeks at heart, so plan trips to the library, science museums, art exhibits, or any place that gives you the chance to discuss something. As gifts, buy them only the newest, most advanced technological gadgets. Never get them an older version of anything.

The single-most important secret to win over an Aquarius lover is to be different from everyone he/she knows. Not just a little different; you must have some shock value. Dye your hair green if you have to. If everyone in your circle is Muslim, be Jewish, or vice versa. If everyone is a vegetarian, have a burger. If everyone is an alcoholic, be the only sober one. You get the picture. Let them know that you appreciate their uniqueness. Never say that you think they’re boring or normal.

In the end, your Aquarius lover may have to move on, but they will leave you standing in awe of them rather than broken-hearted. You will have been graced with a micro-step towards evolution, and you will never be the same again.

Note: Your Venus sign shows your characteristics in close relationships, not necessarily in any other area of your life. Conjunctions to Venus from the outer planets will alter your love style.

Written by Corrine Lane

Posted in Love and Relationships.

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8 thoughts on “Aquarius in Love

  1. I do not know astrology–but the most important thing for me (Venus in Aquarius) is not to be biased and yet at the same time go on your own path. It does not mean you are more arrogant and it does not imply that traditions are negative or bad: they become destructive when people copy and paste life with an biased, unfair and subjective BS.

    And love is no different. I am passionate deeply and have intesnity but those come second to the truth–to respect, and diginty and conscience for my right as well as other peoples’ rights.

    The person who I will never associate with is A) Biased person B) has no concience and no respect for other peoples’ rights and C) is a liar and manipulative (hidde motivations) and D) someone who cannot logically understand their emotions–be passionate, and romantic, and have intenstiy, but be able to understand thy self as well as other people.

    Advice: Do not be arrogant, do not be biased, do not overstepp other peoples’ rights, and do not be manipulative.If you have these things, Venus in Aquarius, or infact most people, do not want to associate with you. Most importatnly, Do not gossip behind our backs. Never will we come to terms with someone who is a “friend” and yet gossips behind my back.

  2. Kassy on said:

    “For example, if your society is full of wild party animal types, then you’ll be attracted to the only homely, shy person….The single-most important secret to win over an Aquarius lover is to be different from everyone he/she knows…”
    This is sooo accurate. I could be very attracted to someone who is “among the crowd” and never even THINK about being with them. I can’t stand “what everyone else does” as a part of my life as far as how superficial and closed minded the world can be in its views.
    On the other hand I am a sun in Pisces/moon in Leo so I actually do enjoy the sitting at home and enjoying one on one time and can appreciate fierce loyalty. The kick with me is that even though I am very emotional at times, I can quickly rationalize my emotions once I pull myself together. I can realize that although I appreciate attention, I don’t need THAT much of it. In fact it annoys me to a certain extent after a while.
    I just feel like there are so many things to see and learn and experience besides worrying about someone all day long.
    My two cents anyway. Lol.

  3. Plutonian on said:

    I could write a book on our relationship, but I will spare you and say that this is the most accurate astrology article I have ever read. It would not have mattered if I knew this stuff ahead of time because I would have done what I did no matter what. Our relationship has been the portal that opened up ‘other worlds’ and I wouldn’t trade my time with her for anything. Thank you . . .

  4. anyone who is dating Aquarius must read this article , i wish i know Aquarius better , so i could make my last relationship well with my ex boyfriend who is Aquarius , any way we are already moved on ,and i want to date another Aquarius if possible

  5. This would be an almost perfect love relationship to me, however, if I really want an Aquarius guy, I don’t want him to leave me. I’m a Saggi woman, I’m like this too, but serious is serious. I love freedom, but… I don’t want to be treated feelingless, I want real feelings in a relationship,

    “In the end, your Aquarius lover may have to move on, but they will leave you standing in awe of them rather than broken-hearted. You will have been graced with a micro-step towards evolution, and you will never be the same again” – This sounds awfull. I don’t want to be left like that in a relationship, I love it shocking and adventurous, not in a weird way, but more in a ‘we are ment to be togheter, deal with it that it’s shocking because of your short-minded opinions about social structures’ way. However, I don’t want it to end if those feelings are over. Feelings are important.

    I’m sorry about my rant about Aquarius males, they’re almost perfect, but without feelings, it’s no relationship at all to me. Aquarius is an almost perfect lover, but something really, really misses. I´m not just a shock value, I´m true love. that´s it.

  6. Frand Ortiz on said:

    I am Capricorn Cusp (January 19th)

    Ascendant: Leo
    Sun Sign: Capricorn
    Moon Sign: Pisces
    Mercury: Capricorn
    Venus: Aquarius
    Mars: Taurus
    True Node: Capricorn

    < I really enjoyed reading this article, and yes it's so accurate for me. I'm always attracted to the weirdest people, e.g…. Shy, nerdy, etc… I've also noticed that I have some sort of power to change them too, for eg… if they are shy, once they start hanging out with me I help them become more out-going/secure of themselves. I somehow like this quality.

    But when it comes to relationships…. Mhm.. I don't know! I'm 22 and I have never been in a relationship. I have a tendency of finding people "boring" and move one. However, I also have the tendency of treating people all the same, for eg… respect, etc… I sometimes feel like a "politician."

    • Wendy R on said:

      Thanks for your response :) I’m in love with an Aquarius man. I am a cancer woman and I know they (astrology) tell me to move on. He and I get along wonderful and yes I give him the space he needs. This article is accurate but in the end it truly saddens me when they say the Aquarian will move on leaving me in awe. To add to our relationship I am older than he is by several years. We look the same age, I honestly have a youthful appearance and get mistaken frequently for more than 10 years younger my age. In our relationship age doesn’t matter but it’s true that he is constantly seeking social and shocking factors in which I as well love and crave. It’s easy for me to give him space but I do miss him and do wish for more of his time. (We see eachother every week. We will stay over each other’s place 2 nights then each go back to work). Do you have any suggestions or comments about how he sees me or relationships. We’ve been seeing eachother for 6 months now. I would appreciate any comment, I am an open minded person and respect honesty.

  7. hilarious! aries sun with aquarius venus here. “dye your hair green if you have to.” hahaha, the guy i’m currently seeing has black hair with red stripes. fortunately for me, he has an aquarius moon, and we get along splendidly.

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